Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Is this how easy it was in the 80's?

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This thread has been a great exercise for me, as I've compared dating in my early 20s (2003-2006) to more modern times (2015-present). There's been a clear degradation. 2003-2006 was not a great time for dating, so I would imagine somone who dated in 1985-1989 could see that 2003-2006 was worse than 1985-1989.

Since I am considering 2003-2006 good compared to 2015-2020, I wonder what will be said in 2030. In 2030, will people look at the dating environment of the 2010s with fondness? It's difficult to imagine that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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2004-2008= Early 20s for me I was still getting flaked on, still getting ghosted, still got laid here but mostly by women I didn't care for. I think the major difference is in my 20s I was willing to deal with more b.s. from women. The nightlife certainly was better even in 2008 when the economy was down you still could go to meat markets

2020=No nightlife, instagram is king. Yes dating apps like Hing make it easier however most women now have become way more hypergamous which has created the "hookup" culture. So while it's easier to get laid even during covid (online dating) it's harder to meet relationship material women compared to my earlier 20s
 

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They complained about hoez before Christ. Look at this verse Sarachi ( ecclesiastes ) 26:11-12.

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10Keep a strict watch over an unruly wife,
lest, finding an opportunity, she use it;c

11Watch out for her impudent eye,

and do not be surprised if she betrays you:

12As a thirsty traveler opens his mouth

and drinks from any water nearby,

So she sits down before every tent peg

and opens her quiver for every arrow.

13A gracious wife delights her husband;

her thoughtfulness puts flesh on his bones.
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Sit's before every tent and allows each arrow into her quiver like a thirsty traveler, she let EVERONE hit it.

This. Man always knew.
 

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2004-2008= Early 20s for me I was still getting flaked on, still getting ghosted, still got laid here but mostly by women I didn't care for. I think the major difference is in my 20s I was willing to deal with more b.s. from women. The nightlife certainly was better even in 2008 when the economy was down you still could go to meat markets

2020=No nightlife, instagram is king. Yes dating apps like Hing make it easier however most women now have become way more hypergamous which has created the "hookup" culture. So while it's easier to get laid even during covid (online dating) it's harder to meet relationship material women compared to my earlier 20s
Bars and clubs were actually open in 2008-09 as compared to 2020, with COVID mandated closures. However, a case has been made that 2018-19 in the bars was worse than 2008-09. The case that it is easier to get laid isn't a valid case because general rates of male sexless were higher in 2018 than 2008.
 

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Bars and clubs were actually open in 2008-09 as compared to 2020, with COVID mandated closures. However, a case has been made that 2018-19 in the bars was worse than 2008-09. The case that it is easier to get laid isn't a valid case because general rates of male sexless were higher in 2018 than 2008.
Fair point, but I was talking about myself

If you're part of the 30% that can't get laid you have to bluntly assess as to why and work on that shyt
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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