"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is this gonna end up flakey

TheBaconator

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I call some girl up that I hooked up with at a bar last weekend and ask her if she wants to come out and do something later this week. She says "maybe" and giggles and i'm like maybe? So shes like "possibly" n I say ite with an uninterested voice. So I ask her if she works nights and she says sometimes depending on how things go at her job (doctors office) and says to call her later this week to discuss it. Is it worth another call or should it be nexted.

I think maybe it's some hard to get because she was kinda playin that at the bar. I'll call it anyway some time later in the week. Should I just call one night and ask to come out that night or a night in advance to set something up?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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