"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Is this girl into me? (YES! Another one of these threads!)

Brighty

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Hey guys, Brighty here with a situation:

I'm a Junior she's a sophmore (Girl A) and basically she's pretty popular in her grade and I'm popular in my grade, so its all good. But she's shown some interested signs in the short, short time I've known her (try like three days, she's normally outgoing from what I've seen, but I'm guessing she might be shy around new people) but lately I'm wondering if she's still interested, tell me what you think.

Basically she mirrors my body language, a lot. We sat next to each other the other day and we seem to be sort of in sync, its kind of weird. When I crossed my arms she crossed her arms a few seconds later and we continued to subconsciously mirror our body language, even right down to the point where we both sarcastically said 'alright then' when someone in the class said something stupid. Now, she's popular and really good looking, and shes got a lot of sophmore guys after her. But I'm not like those typical guys, so I decided to flirt with her one day and then lay it off today and flirted a bit with Girl B in front of her, to show her that I'm not dazzled and I dont worshop her because of her looks.

Just for example today:

Girl B: (to the teacher) Can I get something to eat real fast?
(few second pause)
Me: Hey (Girl B who's not bad herself), here's two bucks, can you get me a soda downstairs?
Girl A: oooh (to the teacher) can I go get something too?

I then decide to end up going with Girl B to get the soda, because lord knows she would've taken my change ;) , and Girl B and her friend go down with me, while Girl A already left when I was still talking to Girl B.

We get downstairs and I start deciding which kind of Powerade I want, while noticing that Girl A is immediately surrounded by sophmore guys again. Whatever. I cross my arms and continue to browse (hard decision, I know) and then she breaks off from her group and comes over to the vending machine next to mine, glances at me real fast as she turns her head and then crosses her arms too and looks at the different sodas for like a total of ten seconds before those drooling horny average guys come back up to her and start trying to get in her pants.

See, I don't have much to go on YET, but I was wondering is her mimicking my body language a good sign? Its also worth mentioning that she glances at me a lot (especially when we're in the hallways but not nearby each other, for example, when she's talking to a friend off to the side as I'm passing by, but I just play it off as I didn't see her/too good).

I'm having trouble approaching her because she's always surrounded by friends, any tips for that as well?

Thanks a ton for your help guys!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bryce556

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alright well for the "her into you" part ill leave to somone elese to give advice, as im still becomeing more experianced with that, but as for your last question on approching, just walk up to her even if she has tons of friends or guys drooling over her around her. it will make it seem that your confindent to her and thats good, also that you dont care what others think of what you do, and that you talk to people when you want to, and that your better/more important then a bunch of pathetic guys that are allways around her.
 

int3l

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Yes. Do something about it, stop playing hard to get damnit.
You're the guy not the woman.
 

Brighty

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int3l said:
Yes. Do something about it, stop playing hard to get damnit.
You're the guy not the woman.
I dont know, I have a feeling that throwing myself at this girl who basically can have her choice of any guy is just going to put me in the average catagory and she'll discard me.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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WhiteSoledShoes

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The approach thing should be a walk in the park. Just go up to her, if she sees that you have the air to just cut through her friends thats points right there man. Use it, you're an upperclassmen.

She's interested in you obviously. You don't have to throw yourself at her..but a show of interest would work towards your benefit. Right now the line on your graph of progress is like this: -----------. That's good for now, but eventually it will start dying down unless you make a move before it does. Showing interest will not lead to you getting thrown in with the other guys..because she is already attracted to you, and they do not have that.

I'd say find a way to get her after school. That's where the magic will commence.
 
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