"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is this flirting?

sexysuave

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My girlfriend of a year and a few months, was just in the car with me and she called a guy that works at the same company asking if he can cover her shift tomorrow so we can hang out. First thing she says when he picks up the phone is "Hey geek" in a sort of joking way. Rest of it was just pretty quick and normal.

This guy has asked her to hang out before while he had a girlfriend and knew that she had a boyfriend, but she never did. She says he doens't do it anymore. I just want an outside opinion on whether you guys think this is flirting or not. I didn't say anything since I don't like overreacting before giving things more thought. "hey geek" friendly or flirty? Thanks
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tazman

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I don't like overreacting
I think your post IS an overreaction. You're asking people here who have never met you or your gf whether or not she was flirting or just being friendly by calling a guy a "geek" on the phone(in a playful way). In my opinion, that's a sure fire sign of extreme jealousy and you need to let it go.

I understand he tried to ask her out knowing she was with you, but he isn't going to change her mind for her, she will do this all on her own. Your jealousy could make it a reality. Seriously, her comment isn't worth wasting your energy on.
 

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I also had a similar situation.

This chick was walking by the street with me, and she eye contacted this random dude, then she stopped him, and asked him for the time. Do you think thats flirty or friendly?
 

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Haha

damn, thanx for the replies. Yeah, I feel you guys, it's just that she usually flirts with me by calling me a "geek" or some dorky names like that, and now that she uses it on somebody else I guess it just lost a little bit of a meaning to me. I haven't said anything so I'm kool. And the last response, I dunno man, didn't you have a watch on you? Did she eye him up and down or something, how was the body language? Did it keep occuring (fishy behavior) I hope not. Are you still with her or was this a while back with some "not so iportant" chick?
 

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It means nothing, dude - stop reading into this. When and if you do happen to hang out with this coworker you think she's flirting with - watch the body language/especially the eyes.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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