Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Is this facebook Wall message really bad?

Raven80

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OK, there's this cute girl on my friend list, and I basically asked if she wanted to play some game on FB, I got a bit ****y and started writing that no one can beat me.

She wrote back and said that gosh she wasn't into fb games unlike me and that she would be really scared to play since I was really good. Now I kind of know the girl and she wouldn't mean anything malicious, but it's just the dumb way that she puts words which makes the wall message kind of defeating. I'm trying to decide whether I should erase the message, thus making me seem insecure and defensive, or whether I should not care and leave it up, thus showing I am secure, yet it would be a bit of a social devaluation in the eyes of other fb friends. What to do?

I feel like i've been negged lol, an embarassing one at that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Prodigy746

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I dont see anything wrong with her msg. She is pretty much saying she isnt into facebook games and that you probably would beat her if you guys played.

However i would like to mention that posting on a girls facebook how you are soo good at a "facebook game" (lol?) and that you can beat her is kinda lame.

I tried playing NL holdem Poker on facebook and was disgusted at the play. People pushing all in w 8-3 off suit... every hand is pretty much all in for everyone . So i wouldnt feel so great about being the best at a facebook game
 

jacob

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You're right don't delete it. It'll make you look weak and insecure as if she had power over you to make you react. So just one up her and put something like "heh.. you won't even try, and I thought you was gangsta...ca ca face!"

Even if she doesn't respond back, at the very least, she'll think you're controversial and different and your friends will think you got balls and won't be disrespected.
 

War Against Betaism

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Prodigy746 said:
I dont see anything wrong with her msg. She is pretty much saying she isnt into facebook games and that you probably would beat her if you guys played.

However i would like to mention that posting on a girls facebook how you are soo good at a "facebook game" (lol?) and that you can beat her is kinda lame.

I tried playing NL holdem Poker on facebook and was disgusted at the play. People pushing all in w 8-3 off suit... every hand is pretty much all in for everyone . So i wouldnt feel so great about being the best at a facebook game
+1, bragging in general should be avoided, but bragging about being good at Facebook games? Nah.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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jacob

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War Against Betaism said:
+1, bragging in general should be avoided, but bragging about being good at Facebook games? Nah.
I disagree. You gotta keep it real and be true to yourself and who you are. This is Don Juan. You don't want a girl falling for a BS persona you made up but you want her falling for you and all your quirks. Don't hide things about yourself, it'll come off fake and females can pick this up Big Time. They want someone who's CONFIDENT in there own skin, without apologizing who they are.
 

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jacob said:
Don't hide things about yourself, it'll come off fake
If you don´t have anything to hide why are you messaging girls on facebook at all? Why don´t you approach girls IRL?

Do you have the answer? Then go out and improve yourself! Forget about facebook, it´s only for nerds.
 

jacob

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Commandante said:
If you don´t have anything to hide why are you messaging girls on facebook at all? Why don´t you approach girls IRL?

Do you have the answer? Then go out and improve yourself! Forget about facebook, it´s only for nerds.

Social Network sites are a great tool for picking up girls. Females are wired differently and are more geared toward auditory than visual attraction. That's why the sweet talker or writer/texter will build attraction in a female. That's why female porn are romance novels, and that's why love letters work on them.

Also you need to establish that you're not a psycho. A relationship with a woman will most likely start with networking because she fears her safety and is suspicious with the stranger that approaches her out of the blue. Even if she finds the stranger attractive initially she'll still put up the b!tch sheild and it'll be an uphill battle. If you're a friend of a friend or are familiar to her she'll trust that you won't be a stalker after she sleeps with you and then wants to have her freedom. And this is made easier by befriending them on Facebook and then letting them get to know you and your personality.

Facebook also let's you practice your "Mac Daddy" since you can take your time to come up with witty things in a convo. Then when you actually start talking in person you're wit will come more quickly because now you have an arsenal built up.

I can go on with all the benefits Facebook can have and how many on this forum underate it's ability to help guys create attraction in females. I'm not saying that you sit at the comp all day, I'm saying learning to be social even if it's virtual will definitley enhance your face to face interactions with females.
 

omega05

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Commandante said:
If you don´t have anything to hide why are you messaging girls on facebook at all? Why don´t you approach girls IRL?

Do you have the answer? Then go out and improve yourself! Forget about facebook, it´s only for nerds.
come on man get outta here with that
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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comic_relief

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OH MY GOD, END GAME. GAME OVER! NO HOPE YE WHO ENTER!!!

Facebook is REAL LIFE! [/sarcasm]

don't worry about it mate, it's just facebook :p

- comic_relief
 
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