Is this Correct Descision?

[GetBetter]

Hello once again fellow DJs,

So as the title somewhat suggests I really want opinion of you guys, who are much more experienced with girls and life, if what I am thinking is correct or not. So what I have been thinking is that I shouldn't really care about girls.

We all are here for one main reason i.e. Girls but to be honest I feel like instead of running after girls I should rather chase the most important thing in life which is fun. I feel that what brings everything in life is FUN, be it money, family, friends, personality or girls. I realized this part when I was trying to gain confidence and ability to flirt with girls and turn myself into chick magnet which brought me to this site. Before I found this site I was arrogant(fake confidence) and top shy to talk with girls. I used to repeat thousand times what Id say to this or that girl(basically whom I liked) and picture how time would passyet never anything used to happen. But after I found this site and then forums, I read almost everything to turn myself into chick magnet and then I eventually came to know about 'Best of Motivation' section in which all that got into my mind was the fact that all I should do is try to stay happy and make your life woth. After reading it I do not know what happened but suddenly happiness surged into me and I swear I will do from now on is just have fun.

And as soon as I tried to have fun I started feeling good; good about myself, about world and stopped overanalyzing which lead to confidence. So basically confidence is nothing but a psycology and over assessment of ourself and negative thinking. Soon after this I felt great happiness inside which must have created a pleasant aura as girls started giving me much more attention and my shyness vanished.

Enough of this ****, lets come back to main thing. So, all iwant to say is that from now on I dont want to care about anything and just have fun. I shouldnt car about life, nor money, not even girls but do what I enjoy doing, it maybe flirting just because I can enjoy it sometime.

BUT. . .

Is this a correct descision? I ask you guys because you guys have much more experience than I have, of life, girls, and how worl works.

 

[Skyline]

Enough of this ****, lets come back to main thing. So, all iwant to say is that from now on I dont want to care about anything and just have fun. I shouldnt car about life, nor money, not even girls but do what I enjoy doing, it maybe flirting just because I can enjoy it sometime.

It's good that you've realized you should be doing stuff that makes yourself happy, but I wouldn't say "not care about life."

The goal of a DJ is basically a happier, healthier lifestyle- not discard it all together. That fact that you stated that "you don't want to care about anything and just have fun" implies more of a rebel AFC life style(jerk guy).

Like you said you were once one, but I'm speculating whether or not its still lingering in your subconscious. You should still care about YOUR future and YOUR overall life. That is a true DJ. Life isn't all fun and games, it needs/has its serious moments.

 

[LearningSlowly]

Yeah I guess whatever works. Create your own life values.

My life values are basically: Be in the present moment. Live in my own life, don't judge myself by others standards. If I decide to care about something, I will put a true effort into it. I will speak up when it matters and stay quiet when I know nothing. I will never hurt someone in a way that I would not want to be hurt (even if I don't know them or they wouldn't know it was me). I will express my true intentions toward people, and never lie to them or myself.

I think about one or more of those values every day.

 

[GetBetter]

Good to know that I am on right track. Also by the phrase 'not caring about life' I kind of meant that I would choose career which I find fun in, but if fun fades away I shall find something else to do.

Like I've been working as 'Pixel Artist' while doing schools and stuff because I was attracted towards money but now I think that I shall roam and see beauty of nature, do what I like so I am giving the amount of time which I feel like spending. Makes sense?