MindOverMatter
Master Don Juan
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don't respond.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Is this "break different from the rest?
- Thread starter NYjets45
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
, ive caught the ametuer dj mindHaha, congrats man. Do not give her any benefit of your approval, disaproval or hurt on justifying what she really did. Cut off ALL communication. No email, no phone calls. She was going to do this to you anyways by the end of it, at least you were a man about it and demanded what should have been told before the break.
Besides, I'm sure you can read through all her BS in that email. She's just trying to make herself feel more secure about the breakup, blaming herself instead of you.
All I can say is GET BACK OUT THERE AND HOOK UP ONCE AGAIN MY MAN!
Besides, I'm sure you can read through all her BS in that email. She's just trying to make herself feel more secure about the breakup, blaming herself instead of you.
All I can say is GET BACK OUT THERE AND HOOK UP ONCE AGAIN MY MAN!
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
For lame, she's doing a textbook breakup. First cause some BS and you to doubt yourself where she's concerned .. as if it is something YOU did.
After breakup occurs, feels guilty and tries to make HERSELF feel better about it, and doesn't want to come across as the 'bad guy'.
She even used the words "always in my heart". If that isn't a load of BS .. in other words, goodbye. Also, 'you're too good for me'. Another trademark thing to supress the guilt.
After breakup occurs, feels guilty and tries to make HERSELF feel better about it, and doesn't want to come across as the 'bad guy'.
She even used the words "always in my heart". If that isn't a load of BS .. in other words, goodbye. Also, 'you're too good for me'. Another trademark thing to supress the guilt.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.