"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is this approach advisable OR a bad move

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I went out on a few dates with a girl and ended up sleeping with her and it was going well but for her ex 'coming to collect his stuff' and her asking if it is ok to have some space for a while....Now I know this is not the best, but how long is 'a while'.

Also, in the run up to sleeping with her (ie out on dates) I was really chilled and relaxed and commented on how I know guys who are needy and how I know people who's relationships have gone stale because they talk to each other & spend too much time with each other. Is it advisable to actively demonstrate that I am not one of these guys and that 'i get it' or is it best to show this through actions (ie...no contact/being a challenge etc)??

She also told me how she could not 'categorise' me into a 'category of guy', to which i said 'this maintains suspense and intrigue'.....what does this mean??

Any ideas on the above guys?????
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Give her the space she needs and in the mean time have other plans if she wants space you dont ring or contact her at all until she initiates. if she does i'd advise a calm, fun attitude and keep it really light without showing much if any interest in her 'situation' with her ex. in other words i'd advise you start moving on. make sure your mind set is centred and that your life doesnt grind to a halt while 'wait for her to make her mind up' the fact she didnt give you a time period is telling.

As for trying to differnciating yourself from the crowd, cut what your doing immediately. Commnicate it through your attitude and persona and by your actions. Further show it by how you communicate with her in your words and body language. People who get it truely, dont need to explain or consciously go to effort to demonstrate that they understand. It comes across like try hard. Imagine your at a sport game, you dont tell everyone why your there and who your supporting. Its obviously by the clothes your wearing and what team you shout for.

As for the final thing, thats a good thing.If she cant place you, your a challenge and dont fit into one of her mental boxes. To which a better reply would have been something like a kiss on cheek, a lismile and something along the lines of "maybe one day you will"
 
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This seems like a wise way to approach it...thanks...any other ideas guys
 
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