"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is this a turn off?

Mustang05

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I am planning to ask this girl who is on a serious basketball team to improve my technique (I am on a casual/not that serious basketball league and am not that good).

I think it would definitely let us get to know each other better (I'm trying to get to know her better enough so that I can ask her out later).

Would this be a turn off to have me ask her to teach me? I personally don't consider it a bad thing.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If I were you I wound't ask her to "teach" you. Just ask her to do something basketball realated i.e. a pick up game, a game of HORSE, or somthign like that.
 

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probably not a good idea
 

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if shes so good, she knows shes better then you so you have nothing to hide, but you should probably not use the word teach, just say "hey do you want to practice together"
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Mustang05
Would this be a turn off to have me ask her to teach me? I personally don't consider it a bad thing.
Bad idea - it is not in your favor for her to see you as a dork/awkward and her being your teacher in a physically demanding manly sport!!!

Ask her out without being her friend - why not take her to a ball game??

If you play her in ball and she beats you tell her in a loud voice, "I can still kick yourr @ss!!" and then grin like you are joking but not so much as to take the seriousness of the statement away.

Hopefully and ideally she doesn't take you up on the challenge and beats you to a pulp!!:rolleyes:
 

LuvMyArmyMan

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asking her to teach you makes you sound inferior and desperate. It also makes you sound like she's the man and you're the woman. Thats somehting a chick would do, is ask a guy for help. Guys dont ask girls for help, unless its school-homework related.
 
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