"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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TheJoe

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I met this really cute, intelligent girl who i really like we have been on a total of three dates now, and it has been going really well, i got an invite back the house and basically we have been really cosy together, in bed.

we would always have flirty phone convosations and flirty text messaging before this.. then suddenly BANG its all stopped, i text her on monday, its now thursday.. i havent heard anything.

I cant imgine im getting nexted because it was all going so well and i havent had any blow off signs whatsoever.

I refuse to text her two times in a row.. its her turn and im sticking by that, if i text her im gonna look like im worrying about her.

what to do, what to do?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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squirrels

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How cozy? Did you sex her? Did you sex her GOOD?

Three dates is the traditional number before sex, at least in this culture. If what she wanted was your c@ck, and you didn't give it to her, or it turned out to be less than she expected, that could explain it.

Or maybe it's something else...just a thought. Either way, don't sh!t yourself over it. Wait a little while, then give her a call and ask her out. If she doesn't get back to you, heck with her.
 

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Originally posted by TheJoe
I met this really cute, intelligent girl who i really like we have been on a total of three dates now, and it has been going really well, i got an invite back the house and basically we have been really cosy together, in bed.

we would always have flirty phone convosations and flirty text messaging before this.. then suddenly BANG its all stopped, i text her on monday, its now thursday.. i havent heard anything.

I cant imgine im getting nexted because it was all going so well and i havent had any blow off signs whatsoever.

I refuse to text her two times in a row.. its her turn and im sticking by that, if i text her im gonna look like im worrying about her.

what to do, what to do?

It has been my experience that we guys jump to conclusions way too fast. When something doesn't go our way we immediatley start formulating all these weird scenarios in our head. Like,"Why hasn't she called me?" or, "She was all over me yesterday, so why is she so distant today? Could it mean that she doesn't like me anymore?"--Sh*t like that is what AFC's guys do and I know your not one of those :) You done all that you can in this situation,you've tried to reach her on numerous occasions and yet no response. If this broad got any marbles she knows you've been trying to talk to her. Its a like a tennis match:Its her turn to return your serve! Don't call her-Don't text her..As a matter of fact, go with your buddies and get some numbers-That way it will take your mind off her. Good luck!

-ONE-
 

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Test?!

You people here still go on about tests?!

My, my TheJoe... it seems like in your mind you have created her actions as a test. Now unless you like taking tests, i suggest you stop thinking that everything she does or anyone else for that matter as a test or has some sort of signifigance... it will drive you up the wall and it's not a pretty picture in the long run!

Godspeed!
-Nightspark
 
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