Is this a test?

[Nexus Polaris]

I've been trading emails with this chick for a couple of weeks now. She's admittedly a spoiled brat / princess type. And she's a cougar, so she's had lots of years to perfect any kind of tests.

We finally talked on messenger the other day, and every speculation I had about what we would and wouldn't get along about happened. We clicked on a lot of things, but then we hit some walls. I pushed the boundaries to see where they were, and she pushed back (i.e. when she mentioned she was a neat freak, I told her we'd make awful roommates since I wasn't. she said she didn't recall asking me to move in). When she would push back, I'd accuse her of reading too much into my harmless playfulness. She demanded things that I wouldn't give her. Just things I told her I didn't know her well enough to disclose yet. She then told me that she had guys lining up outside her door and that if she didn't get what she wanted, she wouldn't come back because she was used to being spoiled. I told her I was sorry that she felt that way but that I didn't bend my principles for anybody. After the rest of the conversation going back and forth between her picking at me like that and us actually agreeing on stuff, I told her I had to go. And we ended things on a good note.

Her last email mentioned several different guys that were interested in her. She even admitted to having a "major crush" on a guy with a girlfriend. I would say a quarter of what she sent me was about other guys that were interested in her. Is this a test? Should I just ignore this?

We made tenative plans to go grab coffee this week prior to this email, and gave me her number at the end of this one without me even asking for it.


Here's where the plot thickens. In the meantime, I spent the weekend with this girl that I met on myspace. She messaged me awhile back, and we had been talking for awhile. But she invited me over for the first time on Saturday, and we really hit it off. I'm not sure whether it's a good idea to give in to potential oneitis. In a lot of ways, this girl reminds me of the one I'm kicking myself for letting slip through my fingers a year ago. But I don't know if that's just my loneliness talking.



Those are my questions. Is the first girl testing me? And should I even care since I'm really digging the second girl for now?

 

[Obsidian]

umm, go out with both of them

And of *course* the first one is testing you. What are you, an idiot?

 

[Nexus Polaris]

umm, go out with both of them

And of *course* the first one is testing you. What are you, an idiot?

I don't know, man. I'm new at this stuff.

 

[Lust]

Ok, listen up. This is IMPORTANT.

Yes, it's a test. But stop reading into it. Think of it this way, if she was ugly, and was acting this way, would you put up with it? Don Juans must take physical attractiveness out of it. You can't be nice to her cause she's hot. The fact that she mentions she has guys lining up outside her door is a dead give away that she is an attention wh0re. I suggest bonding with her at some level, then depriving her of the attention she craves. It's important to bond with her first, or she won't see you as anything special and just leave.

Also, your conversation seemed to be pretty humorless (I'm guessing), make sure you use ****y and funny, the hotter they are, the better it works.

One interesting thing you mentioned was, everything you have speculated came true.

Let me tell you something, this is IMPORTANT so listen.

Have you ever watched the movie "The Secret"? If not, i seriously recommend it. It basically speaks about how thoughts and feelings are materialistic. They are real, they are a matter, they are frequencies. The Universe responds to your thoughts, if you keep thinking horrible thoughts and feeling horrible, then you will attract more of those things into your life.

There have been instances where a man pictures where a spare car lot is in a huge parking lot, when he arrives, he finds it exactly where he imagined, or the car would pull out after a few minutes.

It's mind blowing, but i wanted to share it. This is the most powerful law in the Universe.

The Law of Attraction.

Your thoughts and feelings attract those of the same into your life. So, i want you to spend a few minutes tonight imagining that coffee date going exactly the way you want it.

The movie explains it better, go find it. "The Secret".

As for the other question, yeah, go out with her, take her somewhere mundane, it's best to set up dates where she isn't the occasion. The date shouldn't revolve around her. Coffee is a good example of a bad date. You shouldn't set up a date just for her, you should make her feel like you were doing something anyway and she got to tag along.

Get it? I hope so.

Anyways, what i mentioned earlier brings me to my third point. Block any thoughts, feelings, intuitions or speculations that you are approaching a one-itis. Instead feel like you are a master Don Juan already, and visualize this for a few minutes before going to bed at night.

To me, it's much deeper than just picking up women.

-Lust.

 

[DanelMadr]

Oh man. It is clear she is Attentin ***** aka immature, approval seeking spoiled brat. She is bragging....she needs to tell everybody that she is so beautiful. Call her on that. Ask her why she thinks you would fall to her feet. If she doesnt drop her bad and rude attitude immediately and she stays too much serious about herself forget her. It is not worth it. AWs are not capable of loving somebody....they are NUTS. F@ck up in the head. Be aware.

Take that chic with real interest in you if you have some interest for her. You will be way much happier. AWs only take and give only to take more.

 

[Lust]

By the way, a great line to get attention wh0res off guard is this:

Blah blah blah

"Yeah, you're beautiful, but you know what? Beauty is a common thing, there are three things that really matter; a great personality, a great outlook and a great energy... You got 2 out of 3, that's not a bad start."

Say this to her FACE, not over the net!

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

I have actually dealt with a similar woman. When a woman says she's a "spoiled brat" or a "spoiled princess", believe her, she's not lying. Move on and forget about her.

 

[Nexus Polaris]

I think the allure of the spoiled brat chick is not giving her what she wants which is apparently what she's used to. I like to knock people off their own self-made pedistals. If she leaves because of that, I don't really even care. I've already made it clear to her that I don't deal with people who make their own drama (she's also a drama queen), and if she's type who needs that to be happy, I'll keep her as nothing more than a friend.

Unfortunately, this is one of the pitfalls you reach with cougars. Older women that like younger guys generally do so because they're too immature to relate to guys their own age.

Honestly, I was half tempted to tell her I met somebody and was only interested in going out as friends, but I thought that might be too one-itis like too early with this other girl.

I did everything right with the second girl. I had her wrapped around my finger the first night. She even called me suave and got frustrated at herself for falling for everything I was doing. My only concern now is not being able to keep up the status I've built.

I'll have to look into the Secret. I know exactly what concept you're talking about, though. I suffered a setback last month that pushed me back in to AFC territory, but up until that, I had trained myself to be so confident that I wouldn't fail that even though I didn't land any women, it wasn't because I got rejected. It was because I was too stupid to act when I needed to. I actually blew it with one girl because I took too long to close her.

As far as bad dates, I don't think coffee is bad at all. It's something I do a lot anyway. I basically invited her to join me in something I was going to do with or without her. Besides, I really want to sit down and talk to this girl in person to see how much of her I'll be able to stomach. She's really intelligent and has a lot of cool things to say and likes a lot of the same things I do. It's just that spoiled factor that annoys me.

I already told her that attractive women on the internet are a dime a dozen so I wasn't impressed with just her looks. She needed more than that.



Thanks for the advice, guys. I'll keep you posted on what happens.

 

[woods]

That's crazy! one of my moms friends just sent me the "Secret" on cd. I didnt know there was a movie. The C.D. is really wierd, and kind of hokey, but I'm doing it for the hell of it. Its like a hypnotic cd that is supposed to help your mind get in touch with the entire "universe" or "God" or whatever you want to call it. you just listen to it when you are going to sleep, so I figure I've got nothing to lose.

Lust, have you ever read Celestine Prophesy, or Celestine Vison? These books tie religion, spirituality, and quantum physics, and science all together, like they should be.

 

[I Want To Be a Playa]

I don't know, man. I'm new at this stuff.

sounds like you've already given up, man. give it a shot bro, whats the worst that can happen