Is this a Red Flag?

[Austin Allegro]

Went out with an HB8 the other night. On the way to the pub we passed a mental hospital, and I jokingly said 'if you misbehave tonight I'm dropping you off in there'.

There was a pause and she said 'You shouldn't joke about things like that. You don't know my history'.

The rest of the time she's been fine, perhaps a little vague sometimes but otherwise ok.

Is this a Red Flag? If you suspect someone may have a history of mental illness what should you do? Instant next or proceed with caution?

 

[dietzcoi]

That's a real strange thing for her to say.

Don't next her yet but watch carefully

Wierd and possibly scary....

Dietzcoi

 

[jdr120]

Who knows,

Maybe her cousin was in a mental hospital, or maybe she worked at one for a while.. Asking her about it might open up a HUGE jar of worms... I'd ignore it and keep off that subject. But if she has any other weird remarks, just next her...

 

[squirrels]

That kinda sent a chill up my spine.

Then again, all women are mental-cases these days.

Proceed with caution. You'd dump ANY girl for acting psycho, anyway. Just be a little more scrutinous with this one.

 

[ChesterB]

Check out if she's hiding knives under her pillow.

 

[chlywly]

Yeah umm anything could be a redflag, don't be such a p_ssy! At least get to know her further, its far too early to judge or make coclusions, you could ask her what she meant by history, most likely either she's got issues and is on medication or someone who is close to her is...

Good luck

 

[Big Pappy]

I rather enjoy it when the ladies misbehave...

 

[Reto]

You just touched a nerve. She may have a family history of some mental disease.

Just don't go there...Eventually, you'll get to know her. Chances are her family history too...

 

[Knicknack]

i love your joke about droppin her off there. hilarious. she is a dolt for overreacting to an obvious joke.

 

[silverwex]

She prob was depressed when younger and doesnt wanna bring all those thoughts/feelings back.

Just avoid this subject and keep things positive.

Good C+F line by the way, but under these unusual circumstances you should proceed with some caution.

 

[OpenMind]

Maybe...

She might be just as ****y and funny as you are? I mean if a girl said to me the same thing you said to her about dropping her off.. I would probably had the same response as her.. but i would have a big smile on my face.... so the question is.. was she smiling when she said this or was she serious?

 

[Austin Allegro]

No, she was serious. She smiled, then went quiet, frowned and said the line.

But thanks for the advice chaps. She DOES seem like a nice girl.

In my experience, the problem with girls who have had some kind of mental problems in the past is that they are often STILL screwed up years later and its all part of a general flakiness.

I get the sense with this HB that she may have had some problems in the past but is over them - I mean, she has a good job, and I've met her brother who seemed a thoroughly decent sort.

So I will proceed with due caution!