"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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is this a MAJOR sh!t test?

Patrick124

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aight so i went to my friends gfs house today with them, and my soon-to-be gf[we'll call her Rachel] got there alittle later[she goes to a diff school, but is changing to mine next year].
So she comes in, and acts completely PISSED at me, this is my 2nd time seeing ehr, and shes already starting some drama?
Her story: Her friend Elise told her that "elise and you talked a lot while i was outta town,and she said u said some **** about me." And she didn't believe me when i said "yeah, i dont' talk to elise, shes a ***** lol."
So i left her alone in her bed, and called for my ride to come pick me up about 30 minutes after she got there, I was fed up.

All of a sudden she opens up. She gets closer..and grabs my hand to hold hands[i was trying to sorta] and then i pulled her pver and we like "cuddled" for a while till my ride got there.
She never told me "what elise said"

I get home, and a few hours later i get like 2 calls from Rachel. I *****ed at Elise alittle who said she had no idea what was going on,a dn said that rachel lie., and then when i get rachels call shes like "Don't say **** to elise! I wasn't supposed to get mad! If you **** this up[shes already dumping her very-popular boyfriend for me,and rumors and **** at her school have ruined her reputation] we're done, Elise can ruin my reputation even further and **** me over. don't make this hell for me."
i mentioned this being shady-as-****, but played along. I gto her to tell me what elise said. she said "I talked ot patrick a lot, and I don't think he likes you."rachel thinks elsie like sme..**** that.

So recap: she gets mad at me, all pissy and stuff, softens up when i spit my game, and then basicly says "don't mention this to my bestf riend, the person who made me mad all day, or else we're through."
So shady....was she testing me? waiting to see my reaction? or what do u think of this whole situation. I'm gonna find otu ehr reputation at her school, adn fi she lies alot. and make ti clear to her "if I ever catch you on a lie. then we are through."[whats a better way of making this clear, or should i jsut make it a subconsious idea and if i ever catcha lie, end it no questions asked?]...
i should be able to trust her, but this si so shady lol
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TOO much drama. NO ONE CARES. THANKS FOR WAISTING MY TIME WHICH IM NOT GOING TO GET BACK.
 

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lol, she said she's going to call things off with you if you "**** things up"? Screw this bit*h. She isn't worth it. Dump it and move on..
 

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let her know where you stand

let her know that you talk to who you want, when you want. she doesn't run your life

if she tries some crap like that again, make yourself scarce
 

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BUT don't just bring it up. let her bring it up, then set her straight

if she doesn't mention it again, it would be better for both of you if you just let it go
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by lightshadow
TOO much drama. NO ONE CARES. THANKS FOR WAISTING MY TIME WHICH IM NOT GOING TO GET BACK.
Hey newb, you're on a Don Juan website, every experience Don Juan will run into a situation that they're unfamiliar with, and need a 3-part perspective.


and others: thank u very much boys, jsut wnat i needed. peace.
 
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