"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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is this a Guilt thing?

darkraven425

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hey all,
There's this chick I know, name's rebecca, we'd talk on aim everyonce in a while, so we were friends you know, I'd always cared about her, she was like a sis to me.
about a week and a half ago... her and her parents were in a car accident,
from what I've read about it, some drunk ba*tard was driving on the free way, and just lost control and broadsided their car, slamming it into a wall; Rebecca was the only one who had her seat belt on, and both the drunk and her parents were killed.
I first heard about it from her friend, she was staying at her aunts, who incidently lived close to me, I got the number from her friend and called. she was cold, like scary cold. she had this monotone voice that masked such pain I almost couldn't take it.
I asked her if I could go up there, and talk, there an almost 60 second pause, then she "please."
I drove to her aunts and knocked, her aunt had a nurses convention and was gone for the weekend.
she opened the door, and she looked just hopeless. I held her for a while, she was so scared.
I dunno really, we just kinda moved to the couch and she fell asleep in my arms, and I was content just to comfort her. I guess in a nutshell I realized like this girl, but she's been through so much, and I'd hate to take advantage of something like that.
I don't know
what should I do?
-Raven
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Lost In the Seas

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will u take advantage of ur sis? dude ur twisted, i wouldn't even take advantage if it's jessica alba crying in my arms like that
 

darkraven425

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naw it's not like that, I've just kinda realized I care about her more than I thought, I'm just wondering wether I should ever date her, or just stay friends. I'm kinda aiming for just staying friends, for at least a year or so, until she's a little more stable, and maybe then.
I wasn't talking about taking advantage of her, that would be just wrong
 

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have you ever seen the movie the Butterfly Effect?

...just be careful man... i wouldn't take advantage of her. just be a friend.
 
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