"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"Is this a date?"

Dali_tx_o

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Hello gentlemen,

I've recently got this question again, and I noticed it happens quite a lot during first dates, often in first/second quarter of the time spent with girl. I'm starting to wonder if there is a better way to handle such situation.

My usual ones, so far, have been:

"Well, that depends on you"
(If there was some sort of a mention that we will be going on a date)

"We'll see"

"Depends" *pause, change topic*

*Look straight into her eyes, smirk, then continue eying whatever you were before, be it a menu, a game etc.*

What's your take?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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VladPatton

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You look her straight in the face and say "yes, yes it IS a date" without any question. Make your intention to go out with her romantically known. If she has a problem with it, she can say no and walk away.

Nice guys finish last, and puṣṣies don't even make the team.
 

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my response "yes it is, and thats minus 5 points for asking that"
 
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