"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RE: Hey....
Body: hey,thank u...but no sorry I cant I have some work training mon-thursday after work...on one of the supplement companies.

It sounds like a good film i just looked it up,i am sure u will have no trouble finding someone.u lucky thing?!!how did u get the pass!!

goodnight

:)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Looks like her Interest Level in you is low, but no i wouldn't say its a brush off. She actaully looked up the movie. so it wouldn't be a big brush off.

i would tease her about it, tell her what a great movie it was and compare the movie with her boring job. biuld up her interest level.
 
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Don't waste any more time on her. One thing that stands out in her reply is no counter-offer or even a passing mention of "some other time" or whatever. She gives you nothing to work with, and the comment about finding someone else just doesn't sit right with me. I interpret that as "I'm not interested in you, try to find someone who is..."

Lucky for you, she's right. You shouldn't have trouble finding someone else who's interested. Which is precisely why this girl doesn't deserve any further attention from you.
 
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typical chic reply. she basically slammed the door in your face, but with a smile.

you can't figure out whether you should listen to the smile or the door.

listen to the door.

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it's a brush off. send her a follow up something like this...

no problem...yeah, i'll be fun (interesting, whatever). have fun with your training gig :)

c-ya

put the "c-ya" in there. it's an ambiguous, "i'm dissing YOU", just like she did to you.

no big deal.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by drZaius09
Don't waste any more time on her. One thing that stands out in her reply is no counter-offer or even a passing mention of "some other time" or whatever. She gives you nothing to work with, and the comment about finding someone else just doesn't sit right with me. I interpret that as "I'm not interested in you, try to find someone who is..."

Lucky for you, she's right. You shouldn't have trouble finding someone else who's interested. Which is precisely why this girl doesn't deserve any further attention from you.
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awesome reply...

:)

I ran some e game on a chick that I was seeing earlier in the year she asked me what are you doing now? and I said nothing and she was over at my place in 10 minutes.

;)
 
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Originally posted by Evangenlion
but no i wouldn't say its a brush off. She actaully looked up the movie. so it wouldn't be a big brush off.
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Thats 3 times now you have absolutely zero clue wtf your talking about. YOU wouldnt say its a brush off would you? well fvck me what do YOU consider a brush off? her telling him to fvck off?..... Oh wait a minute SHE DID, its called ******** douche, check it out.

And the b!tch looking up the movie????????, apart from her checking to see if shes missing out on something good for free wtf does that prove?

On a side note I could have sworn this was 25 and over.



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Originally posted by drZaius09
Don't waste any more time on her. One thing that stands out in her reply is no counter-offer or even a passing mention of "some other time" or whatever. She gives you nothing to work with, and the comment about finding someone else just doesn't sit right with me. I interpret that as "I'm not interested in you, try to find someone who is..."

Lucky for you, she's right. You shouldn't have trouble finding someone else who's interested. Which is precisely why this girl doesn't deserve any further attention from you.
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Thank goodness for this guy.
 
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Originally posted by ( . )( . )
Thats 3 times now you have absolutely zero clue wtf your talking about. YOU wouldnt say its a brush off would you? well fvck me what do YOU consider a brush off? her telling him to fvck off?..... Oh wait a minute SHE DID, its called ******** douche, check it out.

And the b!tch looking up the movie????????, apart from her checking to see if shes missing out on something good for free wtf does that prove?

On a side note I could have sworn this was 25 and over.
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who are you and why you stalking me? listen, girl, you have nice ( . )( . ) and all, but piss off (yess this is a brush off). take drZaius09's advice and move on.
 
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Originally posted by Evangenlion
who are you and why you stalking me? listen, girl, you have nice ( . )( . ) and all, but piss off (yess this is a brush off). take drZaius09's advice and move on.
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Stop talking out of your ass and you got a deal. Talk that fantasy chick sh!t in general discussion until your blue in the face but its not going to fly here, well at least while I'm still reading and spotting this garbage.

As amusing as it is too watch you spit sh!t you clearly have no idea what your talking about, lets try not to make it a 4th time eh?

Throw a hissy fit at me all you want buddy, but wasting this guys and others time will be still be called out, its nothing personal. And this nonsense grey area "Yeah she blew you off BUT" advice is better suited at some other place where a man compromising his dignity and manhood is common. Last time I looked this place is about men bettering themselves.
 
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