Is this a bad quality

[youngprodigy]

say you’re a really confident, humble and happy individual. You meet a girl and make her your main plate. She shows attractive qualities and you screen her only to promote her to LTR material (while keeping some safeguard plates around just in case.)

I noticed from this girl that she feels threatened by my confidence. I’m an above average looking guy, lift consistently, have social proof in my area and come from a wealthy family. I’m also in 3rd year university all while maintaining frat boy persona without the part of not having myself together.

The suspect (LTR) is a hb9 who’s also in university. She’s really smart with grades in the 90th percentile. She Lives 2 minutes away. We Have related social circles. Went to the same high school but didn’t start dating till after. Isn’t a hoe but likes to be regarded as sexy.

When arguing with me she has indirectly stated things that suggest that my confidence makes her feel insecure. While she is a really confident girl herself I can sense a feeling of insecurity time to time when she sees other girls checking me out while we’re out and such.

Now what I noticed now is this. The thing is that when I’m on my peaks of where I’m most confident with myself is when she’ll play “mind games” to settle that peak. For instance, she’ll play colder or start an argument. Even in some cases try to make me jealous (works sometimes but I rarely show it). She hasn’t gone overboard where she’s seeking attention from other guys since this girls been head over heels tryna maintain mine.

Is this something to be worried about?

 

[Chev.Chelios]

say you’re a really confident, humble and happy individual. You meet a girl and make her your main plate. She shows attractive qualities and you screen her only to promote her to LTR material (while keeping some safeguard plates around just in case.)

umm, removing yourself from your social circle for one girl your converting into a exclusove relationship is never a good idea.

I noticed from this girl that she feels threatened by my confidence. I’m an above average looking guy, lift consistently, have social proof in my area and come from a wealthy family. I’m also in 3rd year university all while maintaining frat boy persona without the part of not having myself together.

you're a really cool guy in the popular group with lots of social status, anyone on your campus circle would feel uncomfortable around you. validation, competition, status, social anxiety..

The suspect (LTR) is a hb9 who’s also in university. She’s really smart with grades in the 90th percentile. She Lives 2 minutes away. We Have related social circles. Went to the same high school but didn’t start dating till after. Isn’t a hoe but likes to be regarded as sexy.

the suspect? lol sounds like a sniper shot approach, remember this, she's ****ed guys that have no regard for her feelings and use her as a throw away. not judging, it's just common with attractive girls.

When arguing with me she has indirectly stated things that suggest that my confidence makes her feel insecure. While she is a really confident girl herself I can sense a feeling of insecurity time to time when she sees other girls checking me out while we’re out and such.

any form of jealousy always ends in a trainwreck. 100% guarentied no question.
tell her it was nice but I don't deal with people telling me what to do.

Now what I noticed now is this. The thing is that when I’m on my peaks of where I’m most confident with myself is when she’ll play “mind games” to settle that peak. For instance, she’ll play colder or start an argument. Even in some cases try to make me jealous (works sometimes but I rarely show it). She hasn’t gone overboard where she’s seeking attention from other guys since this girls been head over heels tryna maintain mine.

once again, 100% train wreck. you may get into a relationship with this girl and it will be heaven on earth for about 6 months. then reality sets back in after the honey moon phase and you will start kicking the living fvcking piss out of each other emotionaly and you'll be back her adding the millionth breakup post to the stack.

Is this something to be worried about?

depends, just be this girls friend and enjoy each other's company what's so hard about that? have sex whenever you want. having the urge to go exclusive is a scarcity needy mindset which is the most common fairy tale mindset ever.. so common nobody questions it and thinks it's reality.

but once again, this script is the same script from every other script. and it always has think the same outcome. every single, fvcking time

 

[wifehunter]

She's an insecure, powerhungry feminist.

Those are a dime a dozen.

Get out. Find someone without a 'man frame'.

 

[sazc]

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.

People don't change without a need to change.

The only thing you can do is TALK to her honestly about what you are seeing, and see how she reacts. That will tell you what you need to know. If she embraces the convo and wants to problem solve, great. If she gets defensive and refusesto contemplate what you are saying, this is a personality trait you can count on seeing moving forward.

 

[wifehunter]

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.

People don't change without a need to change.

The only thing you can do is TALK to her honestly about what you are seeing, and see how she reacts. That will tell you what you need to know. If she embraces the convo and wants to problem solve, great. If she gets defensive and refusesto contemplate what you are saying, this is a personality trait you can count on seeing moving forward.

Sometimes they give 'lip service' just to keep you on the line. Been there, done that.

 

[sazc]

Sometimes they give 'lip service' just to keep you on the line. Been there, done that.

TONS of people do this.
You have the conversation once, and you agree to a resolution. Then you let actions speak.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Hmmm, this could go either way in my opinion.

In order for a relationship to work and her to keep interest level in you, women have to be jealous of you. They have to know, always, even if you are living together, that you have other options and that you are in demand. So I don't think some jealousy is a bad thing. It is an indicator of interest.

Her "mind games" as you describe them, sound to me like typical **** tests that all women do. When you are acting EXTRA confident, she is ****-testing you to see if you are just putting on a show or if you really are that confident. So I'm not really sure I agree with others who say this is a major red flag. I haven't yet met a girl who didn't **** test me in some way. Since we know all women do it, I don't think it's something to worry a lot about.

What I will say is a red flag is the statement, "Your confidence makes me feel insecure." That's not good. She is refusing to accept responsibility for her own emotions and this is dangerous. I've been in a relationship with a woman who was always blaming ME for how SHE felt. She can say, "I feel insecure" but that is something she has to own and you are not responsible for it. The term "YOU make ME feel" is the red flag. No one can "make you feel" any way. You can talk about it but I would not bend or stop doing something that is a positive thing, on account of her saying your doing it makes her insecure or angry or whatever.

Do you want to take a guess as to what will happen if you start modifying your behavior and acting less confident around her? She will dump you and say, "I'm just not feeling the chemistry any more." This is the most fvcked up part about women: They will complain and argue with you about something you do that they claim they don't like but when you conform to what they are asking for, they hate it and lose interest in you. This is the basis in why people say women need to be told no.

You sound like you have your sh*t together. Keep it up. Be nice, but maintain your confidence. You can and should talk to her about her feelings, and really dig in and ask her "how does that make you feel" "why do you think you feel that way" "tell me everything" but that's all you need to do. You do not need to try to solve the problem for her, and you absolutely do not need to commit to her to changing your confident behavior. The second you do, you fail the **** test and she's gone.

 

[wifehunter]

TONS of people do this.
You have the conversation once, and you agree to a resolution. Then you let actions speak.

I agree.

 

[The Duke]

Women are great actors. She might not be as confident as you think. Confident people don't play games either. They address issues head on.

I'm guessing her behavior will get worse before it gets better. If she is hot and rolling up on her mid 20's she will have the world at her finger tips. There will be no incentive to improve her behavior, just a ton of men telling her how great she is reinforcing her opinion that she isn't the one to blame.

I'd definitely talk to her about it. Ultimately its up to her to correct her bad behavior.

Understand that most women lack confidence and have jealousy/insecurity issues to some extent. And those types are drawn to strong/confident males.