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Is this a bad move when dealing with two girls?

fruitopiax

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Ok so I'm on the bus earlier today and I see this HB8 or so and make eye contact with her as she sits down. Basically I was checking her out blantantly and she saw me as she sat down. I was in the very back of the bus and she was in the very front with her friend. So anyways as she gets to her stop she looks back at me, so I get off at the same stop which coincidentally was mine anyways.

So yea my question is as I'm talking to her I get her name and we fluff for a bit and she seemed interested which was good(asked me my name and stuff and where i was from). The only thing was by the time I left I never asked what her friends name was and only hers and most of the fluff was between her and me.

What I'm wondering is if thats a big deal or not. I did open with "How are you two doing tonightthough", but after that the convo was basically on her.
 

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fruitopiax said:
Ok so I'm on the bus earlier today and I see this HB8 or so and make eye contact with her as she sits down. Basically I was checking her out blantantly and she saw me as she sat down. I was in the very back of the bus and she was in the very front with her friend. So anyways as she gets to her stop she looks back at me, so I get off at the same stop which coincidentally was mine anyways.

So yea my question is as I'm talking to her I get her name and we fluff for a bit and she seemed interested which was good(asked me my name and stuff and where i was from). The only thing was by the time I left I never asked what her friends name was and only hers and most of the fluff was between her and me.

What I'm wondering is if thats a big deal or not. I did open with "How are you two doing tonight though", but after that the convo was basically on her.
Well done for approaching, that's the main thing! It's ok to talk to the girl who gave you eye contact first, but very quickly you want to engage them both in the conversation. Just a simple question like "So are you two best friends?" or "How do you know each other?" will do the trick.

If you make a great impression on both girls, usually it will become aparent which one likes you, and the friend will be find about this. But if you only talk to one girl, the other will get pissed off and may ****block/drag the friend away, leaving you with nothing.

So make a good impression on both girls when you next sarge 2 girls, and you should get one of them.

You don't say whether you got her number or email address etc. You should've number closed at least, no excuses.
 

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Well done for approaching, that's the main thing! It's ok to talk to the girl who gave you eye contact first, but very quickly you want to engage them both in the conversation. Just a simple question like "So are you two best friends?" or "How do you know each other?" will do the trick.

If you make a great impression on both girls, usually it will become aparent which one likes you, and the friend will be find about this. But if you only talk to one girl, the other will get pissed off and may ****block/drag the friend away, leaving you with nothing.

So make a good impression on both girls when you next sarge 2 girls, and you should get one of them.

You don't say whether you got her number or email address etc. You should've number closed at least, no excuses.
Oh yea I tried for the # close but she gave me some excuse like she doesn't give out her # or doesnt like doing it, so I got her email.
 
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