"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is this a AFC Move? If yes stop me now!

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Gal i like, met online, after not really speaking to her for a bit because she had a bf, spoke to her alot more after she broke up with him, met her and her friends (i know silly blah blah)

shes intrested in me, altho shes just me some guy at a party shes intrested in too and she knows i fancy her

She doesnt seem intrested in the fact that i just wanna hook up with her, and tbh i dont just wanna hook up with her, i like her more than that, so i wanna tell her/show her

Im really close to sending a message like this

"Just wanna say, i think your pretty amazing and really cool to talk too, i wanna meet you soon alone coz i wanna get to know you better and not just hook up with ya x"

Advice needed asap

cheers
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Want my advice? Don't send that message, look for other girls. If she was truly interested, you'd know by now.
 

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i wouldnt send that....thats lame man.
 

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Im pretty certain shes intrested, just trying to sort our meeting up properly!

Your right tho, that message is very lame after reading it again

so how about this one?

"Bit out of the blue i know, but are we meeting up alone soon?"

im thinking about putting something like "just need to know im not waisting my time chatting to you, thats all"

what ya think about that?
 

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Don't send it and it seems like she using you as a rebound friend. if you really want just ask do something like this.

So next time you're on the phone with a woman that you've met recently, try this...

1) Call her and say, "Hey, WHAT'S UP?". Don't talk about work, family, or any other BORING topic.

2) Tease her and get back the fun mood that you hopefully created when you first met her.

3) Tell her that you're busy, but you might have some time on Saturday... and that if she's lucky you might let her hang out with you.

4) Hang up. That's right, tell her you have to go, and then GO.

Why?

Well, you need to learn how to not NEED her to like you. And you need to learn how to give a woman the gift of missing you. You need to learn how to LEAN BACK, and not care what happens.

These things will help you TREMENDOUSLY.

Finally, call her back on Saturday afternoon and say "Hey, I'm going to Starbucks, I think you should buy me a cup of tea and entertain me".
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by illmatic20
Don't send it and it seems like she using you as a rebound friend. if you really want just ask her when she going to ask you out.
I dont think its a rebound, they broke up ages ago, months in fact!

anyway shes told me she prefers it when the guy takes control so i dont think saying "so when you gonna ask me to meet up with you again alone" will work tbh

maybe im wrong?
 

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Originally posted by illmatic20

1) Call her and say, "Hey, WHAT'S UP?". Don't talk about work, family, or any other BORING topic.

2) Tease her and get back the fun mood that you hopefully created when you first met her.

3) Tell her that you're busy, but you might have some time on Saturday... and that if she's lucky you might let her hang out with you.

4) Hang up. That's right, tell her you have to go, and then GO.

Why?

Well, you need to learn how to not NEED her to like you. And you need to learn how to give a woman the gift of missing you. You need to learn how to LEAN BACK, and not care what happens.

These things will help you TREMENDOUSLY.

Finally, call her back on Saturday afternoon and say "Hey, I'm going to Starbucks, I think you should buy me a cup of tea and entertain me".
That sounds incredibly familiar.. I think I've read the same thing elsewhere recently.

I wouldn't mention the alone part at all, it immediately says you want to get physical and could scare her off. Just say you're doing something at some time and some place, then tell her she can go along with you if she likes.
 
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