Is there such a thing as overdressing?

[muscleman]

So me and my wing have been doing some shopping here in LA the past couple days. In general I noticed people here have WAY more style than in the midwest. Even though I brought my "best" clothing, I still feel rather underdressed in most cases. This is really making me re-evaluate my own wardrobe. Back home when we go sarging I'd wear some normal jeans & a tshirt and still look better than most of the guys there, style-wise. I'd say I'd be in the top 25% on a normal day back home. Here I'm like in the bottom 10%. As far as looks/physical build go I'm definitely in the top 5% back home, here maybe in the top 25% for looks, top 10% for build. There are some damn good looking people here!

Anyway, now that I dropped a bunch of $$ on some better tshirts (still form fitting to show off my body, but with more of a designer touch) and some shoes, I realize my purchases here blow my current wardrobe out of the water. Then again, very few people in the midwest dress like those here in LA. Now that we're even better equipped and looking our best (or at the very least much better than usual), I wonder if there's such a thing as overdressing, or if you should always look your best. I realize there are some things you wouldn't wear because it would be over the top (wouldn't wear a suit you'd be seen with in a hollywood night club to a hole-in-the-wall bar), but in general, what are your thoughts?

I'm excited to head out with my new gear; not only is it a confidence booster but I know we'll look even better, possibly the BEST at the spots we hit. So how does your gear affect your game? Do you accessorize (beyond a watch per se)?

 

[old married dude]

I don't think there's any such thing as being overdressed when sarging. Most of the hotter females will definitely take notice that you dress well. Nice clothes/accessories help your game a bit, but attitude matters most. Just curious, where did you go shopping? I like to accessorize beyond a watch, but it's never a good idea to try and go all bling like you're Lil Wayne. Besides a watch, I'd wear some nice, stylish sunglasses like a pair of Revos. You need a nice belt, nice ties for when you're in a yuppie hangout, good colognes are a must in my opinion. My advice would be to stay away from ones that are too common like Acqua Di Gio or Jean Paul Gaultier. There's nothing wrong with how those smell, but they're played out & every other guy is wearing those. My 2 faves at the moment are Play Intense by Givenchy and "The One" by Dolce & Gabanna.

The Givenchy Play Intense is a panty dropper.

 

[backbreaker]

that's like asking can you get too many *******s. hell no.


you can never overdress for an occusion.


when I walk into a room damnit my goal is to be the cleanest mother****er in the room. I don't care if it's my house, the horse track, the jazz bar or the grocery store.

coming from a guy that is pretty ripped himself, you don't need Tee shirts to show off a body. your clothes should fit first and foremost and as long as your clothes fit, women have no problem knowing what's under the "hood". While I do have a couple of tight fit CK one shirts,t hat's not really my MO.


develop your own sense of style. Learn the rules of dressing, what works, what doesn't, how clothes should fit hwo they shouldn't, how you should look and develop your own style within that.


I for instance, like suits. really really nice suits. usually what i wear is a mix and match of slacks, dress shirts and depending on where I'm going I might take a sports jacket that matches.

few nights ago I took the GF out for dinner and than to listen to some live music, I threw on a three peice (i was pretty damn clean if i say so myself).

If I had one peice of advice, go for quality over quanity. You don't have to have a huge wardrobe. I'd rather have 1 250 dollar armani shirt than 3 80 dollar polos. the polo's have their place, laying aorund the house on a saturday, etc. get you some NICE shoes, a NICE belt, stay well groomed, make sure you match, always take your clothes to the cleaners. Be anal about the way you dress.

get you 2 really nice suits. even if you don't wear suits, every man needs a suit. suits are my staple so I have alot but get you 2 nice suits, spend some money on them. Brooks Brothers, Ralph lauren purple label, etc. Get them taliored. A 200 dolalr suit will look like a 1,000 dollar suit once it's taylored.

my fav colonge happens to be Angel for men. my GF's fav colonge on me is Ralph Lauren Romance.

 

[muscleman]

I realize it's more about attitude, but I also approach it from the perspective of being a complete package ... if you look good, are in good shape, dress well, make $$ (and therefore dress well), and are outgoing, that's the whole package right there and that's what I'm working on - every aspect of it.

So far we've been to the Beverly Center and a bunch of boutique stores on Melrose Ave. I think we may be hitting up Burbank or Glendale mall today (it's our last day here). I haven't bought too much - 5 tshirts (a couple armani and some other cheaper ones that have nice designs), a nice belt, and some italian shoes. I'm not ready to drop the $$ on a sportscoat yet because my body is changing to much right now that it's going to become useless in a few months. Don't quite have the funds for it right now anyway.

I agree on the super expensive cologne being overplayed and I have no intention of buying it. I'll check out some of the ones you suggested.

By accessories I just mean something small that's a good addon, possibly a conversation starter. I already have an ok watch (kenneth cole) and a neck chain.

As far as the tight tshirts go, I found it's something that works really well for me. It's not necessary, but I do get more attention from it. At some point every night we go out I end up on the topic of my physical training and girls invariably "feel me up", so it's good stuff.

 

[backbreaker]

hey i didn't say anything was WRONG with the tee shirt look. It's just Not MY look. I know what my look is and what it isn't and i'm comfortable with that.

 

[Warrior74]

Tuxedos don't go over at rock shows. Yah you can over dress for an occasion.

Here is the rule as player supreme would run it down. Always dress better than everyone else in the venue. If you are going to a rock show, look like a rockstar, not like the average joe in the crowd. If you are going to a formal event, be the most immaculate there. If you are going to a little league baseball game, dress down but better than the rest of the people there. You just always want to be a step above.

LA is gonna be more serious about dress than the midwest...everything is self promotion including clothing out there.

 

[backbreaker]

Tuxedos don't go over at rock shows. Yah you can over dress for an occasion.

Here is the rule as player supreme would run it down. Always dress better than everyone else in the venue. If you are going to a rock show, look like a rockstar, not like the average joe in the crowd. If you are going to a formal event, be the most immaculate there. If you are going to a little league baseball game, dress down but better than the rest of the people there. You just always want to be a step above.

LA is gonna be more serious about dress than the midwest...everything is self promotion including clothing out there.

you mean i can't wear a tux to the grocery store?

 

[old married dude]

As far as the tight tshirts go, I found it's something that works really well for me. It's not necessary, but I do get more attention from it. At some point every night we go out I end up on the topic of my physical training and girls invariably "feel me up", so it's good stuff.

Where do you find decent tight t-shirts? I've been looking for some. I'm nowhere near LA, so it would have to be some store that also sells online.

 

[trent81]

There is an outfit for every occassion. Don't look like a stuck up square who has a suit on at a god damn alternative band concert. Don't dress casual if you are at a night club. A man needs;
3 pairs of shoes; black dress, sneaker dress shoes, running shoes
needs casual clothes; hoodies, zip ups, tshirts, light colored jeans,caps, polos etc
needs one navy blue suit
needs a few dress shirts
needs a few clubbing shirts (these are not dress shirts)
needs a couple sweaters, v neck and crew neck
needs a nice coat or jacket
needs nice dark jeans for going out
needs casual pants (like beije or brown or something)
needs a black belt
needs white socks for gym shoes, black for black oxfords
needs one good watch, and one nice pair of sunglasses. No jewelery unless he is married.
needs good boxers in dark colors.
Just remember, your wardrobe should look like this; Casual clothes, work clothes, going out clothes. Don't be the stiff in the room who overdresses or underdresses for every occasion. And don't buy baggy clothes or clothes that are too tight. Girls notice three things; your looks, your money, and what car you drive. They don't care about the nice suits if there is no paycheck behind them......

 

[trent81]

If you think attitude will get you far in So Cal, good luck. I was just there, you better be very good looking guy or have some money. It's all about the Benjamins. ......It's all about perception. Unless you want average women, then who gives a shivt.

 

[zekko]

If you think attitude will get you far in So Cal, good luck. I was just there, you better be very good looking guy or have some money. It's all about the Benjamins. ......It's all about perception. Unless you want average women, then who gives a shivt.

The guys who sell dating advice will tell you that women are attracted to men who exhibit alpha behavior because their ancestors wanted to enhance their survival chances. Yet these same people will tell you that money does not matter. This makes no sense at all because if women are looking to survive, then latching onto a guy with money is their best bet outside of making it on their own. But they have to tell guys money doesn't matter so they can get them to buy their product.

Money isn't all important by any means, but to say it doesn't matter at all is going too far.

 

[old married dude]

The guys who sell dating advice will tell you that women are attracted to men who exhibit alpha behavior because their ancestors wanted to enhance their survival chances. Yet these same people will tell you that money does not matter. This makes no sense at all because if women are looking to survive, then latching onto a guy with money is their best bet outside of making it on their own. But they have to tell guys money doesn't matter so they can get them to buy their product.

Money isn't all important by any means, but to say it doesn't matter at all is going too far.

I think it really does matter to an extent. MOST women want you to at the very least own a car, have a steady job, a place of your own, and enough discretionary cash to have some fun with. Basically they don't want a broke a$$ mofo & I can't blame them b/c I never really wanted to associate with broke a$$ chicks.

Gold diggers are a different breed, no amount of money is enough to satisfy them it seems. You can have $5 mil sittin in the bank, but once she runs into a guy with $20 mil, she'll trade up.

 

[backbreaker]

Where do you find decent tight t-shirts? I've been looking for some. I'm nowhere near LA, so it would have to be some store that also sells online.

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[zekko]

Basically they don't want a broke a$$ mofo & I can't blame them b/c I never really wanted to associate with broke a$$ chicks.

Good point. If you don't want to associate with broke a$$ chicks, how much less would a girl want a broke a$$ guy? It's not all the money either, it's just that why would she want someone who can't even take care of himself?

No offense to you unemployed out there. It's only temporary, and the job market is tough right now.