Is there more to it than just how you say it?

[green69]

I'm not sure why, but if you take Person A saying an edgy comment like "That shirt looks terrible" and it could come across as being kinda mean/douchy but then Person B who says the exact same thing...it might come across as funny. I'm not talking only about the WAY they say it, but also WHO the person is that is saying it.

Even if I'm smiling and laughing as I say a comment like that, I find most people would think I'm saying that remark in a mean fashion, even though I'm not at all. But if another dude, who has a different type of personality says it, suddenly it seems to fit really well. I think jokes and sarcasm go beyond just how you say it, the way you say it etc. but perhaps just the way you look, or the sound of your voice has an effect on the perception of your comment.

Every person is different and they should tailor their own humour to their personality, and not just copy lines. Like a pickup line I hear sometimes is "Do you wanna know why you suck?" but I dunno even when I'm smiling and say it in a positive way it doesn't come across as well as I'd like to. I'm not sure why. But it's made me realize that I should stick with jokes that suit my personality instead of just sayin "Hey that guy used that line successfully...so I'm gonna try to imitate the way he said it and see if it works for me!"

It also depends a lot on WHO you're saying it to. Some people I have a certain type of rapport with so I might be able to say something a particular way and they would immediately understand and find it funny. A girl who finds me attractive might laugh at anything mildly humourous I'm saying, whereas a girl who is not attracted might take the comment an entirely different manner. Their impression of you, who YOU are, who THEY are, are really important and is definitely another factor other than the way you say a particular line.

 

[COD]

well duh............it is because U are not making the comment your own, its gotta be natural and you gotta be conguent.

Two guys can say the exact same line on the exact same chic and get two different results.........so YES I AGREE find something that works for you.

Now the philosophy of copy what works is generic advice and is valuable when starting out, but you will eventually encounter its limitations, so enhancements must be infused to continue that success model. There will a time that no lines are required cause U will be able to just stand there and exude sex appeal and U can say anything and it will work.

So Ya looks do play a factor...........but if U aint got the goods might as well scult that personality.

 

[Lexington]

Well it depends on how the girl perceives your personality. Even if a a guy is trying his best to seem C+F, if he doesn't actually feel C+F, then often people can see through it. If you seem serious a lot of the time and then bust a comment like that out of the blue, she might take it the wrong way.

If you are C+F all the time and not just occasionally, as I suspect a lot of people here are, girls will interpret it as part of your nature.

There was one girl I was gaming when I was an AFC. After I started reading up on materials here I decided to try and be C+F with her. The problem was, I wasn't C+F before. So when I busted it out all of a sudden even when it was done with a smile etc. she didn't like it.

But with another girl, I was C+F right from the start and I am that way all the time. Now I could say something like "I want to bend you over that there table and fvck you up the ass" and she would laugh.