So I'm writing this to help myself regain my focus. I recently went through a powerfull emotional experience. I had decided that I lost the girl I loved at the time, and I cried as hard as I would when I was a little boy. It really took me by surprise and hurt a lot. But at the same time I felt very alive and like a weight was lifted. But the wound is not fully healed yet and I still find myself thinking about her even though I've accepted the fact that I lost her. This is hitting me hard because I've never felt such strong feelings for a single woman. So what should I focus on? The obvious answer is myself because that's the only real thing that matters in my life... my well being. But what about her? She is going to leave for college in 20 days so there is no hope for a relationship. A part of me still wants to move forward with her and enjoy the time we have left. The other side says to let her go completely and move on with my life, the tricky part is what should I do if SHE tries to remain imitate. I know if I respond to her intimacy I'll probably become attached again. Also noted the reason we had our blunder is because I misread a situation, where we were in the car fooling around. I told her to give me head and she said no, some part of me thought she was kidding or teasing and proceeded as if she said yes. Yeah that's an ugly situation. So she then left the car and we didn't talk for a few days. I then text her and she was obviously acting cold. I figure out she is really upset and no longer wants to move forward with me unless I regain her trust. I also get upset and have my balling incident. I was upset because I hurt her, I was mad at myself for having such a huge lapse of judgement and I was most upset because I put a huge chinc in our relationship. So I then proceeded to impulsively quit my job, which I was scheduled to work with her the next day. I didn't care much about the job but it was still probably the wrong decision. She told me I didn't have to quit which I already knew. Since then I had a two hour long conversation with her where we sort of patched things up. I tried calling her the next day with no reply so far. So to conclude things I pretty much know which direction things are headed. But what do you guys think? Should I maintain the connection (we click well) even though shes off to college? Or is it all to damaged already and I'm acting to AFC to even get her back? Any advice will help, thanks guys!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Is there hope?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Winners quit doing stupid things all the time.
oh fvck, quitting job because of the girl... get your life in order, avoid talking to her. suck your emotions up and take a break from this girl. you an get in touch with her again later on. Try to go out with some other girl even somewhat ugly one 
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.