"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is there anything wrong with this?

Dole

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I went on two dates with this girl, haven't made a move on her or kissed her yet simply because i am taking it slow since shes a virgin. She also likes having meaningful conversations.

Anyways last night we were on a date and conversing about male and female traits. She said that I am probably sexist. I said that only thing that men have an advantage over females is being physically bigger. She said thats a lie blah blah. Also she talked about how girls are forced into being skinny and that guys have it easier because of there personality. I told her just as girls work on there physical appearance guys can work on there personality. She said that was a joke and no guy does that. So I hate knowing that I am right and someone denying it.


I want to message her on facebook the following:


Subject: Hello Brickwall ;)
"The basal metabolic rate is about 6 percent higher in adolescent boys than girls and increases to about 10 percent higher after puberty. Women tend to convert more food into fat, while men convert more into muscle and expendable circulating energy reserves. At age eighteen, men (on average) have about 50 percent more muscle mass than women in the upper body, 10 to 15 percent more in the lower. Men, on average, have denser, stronger bones, tendons, and ligaments. This allows for heavier work.[3]

Men typically have larger tracheae and branching bronchi, with about 30 percent greater lung volume per body mass. They have larger hearts, 10 percent higher red blood cell count, higher hemoglobin, hence greater oxygen-carrying capacity. They also have higher circulating clotting factors (vitamin K, prothrombin and platelets). These differences lead to faster healing of wounds and higher peripheral pain tolerance.[3]"

If you decode all those fancy words you will conclude that male are physically bigger then women, meaning I was right. Therefore my comment of males being physically bigger then women is not sexist but a fact, and I am not sexist thank you very much.

Furthermore during the conversation skinny girls vs fat girls you mentioned that girls care about personality. I told you just as girl's can improve there physical appearance males work on there personality. You laughed and said that males don't work on there personality!
http://www.essentiallifeskills.net/improveyourpersonality.html
just one example that working on your personality does exist and males do work on it!

Dole 2 - Jess 0


My Question to you...
Is this appropriate or not?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DJx420

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No, thats showing her you care, which you shouldn't be. You have your views on the subject and thats all that should matter to you.
 

shaunuk

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nah man don't bother...you're just turning something that could be fun into some nerdy slagging match. :)
 

Igetit!

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You want to know if something is wrong with this? Oh yeah, there's somthing wrong alright. How in the world did you (yes, I said YOU) let the conversation deteriorate into this subject? More importantly, why? What was this supposed to be, a date or a debate? Let's say that you're right and you have proven your point. So what? If it were playful, just a little joking around,then that's cool,but this seemed like a serious discussion. There only thing women care about is whether they feel passion and chemistry when they are in your presence, that's it. The fact that you even had a date with her in the first place means that you did generate some chemistry, but don't kill with this "arguement" over men/women issues. The thing you said that you want to message her on facebook is just plain ridiculuos. If you keep this up, I guarantee that you are going to regret it. You may "win" the arguement, but you'll lose the girl.
 

Nutz

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For starters you holding back is an excuse to no escalate. At a minimum you need to kino and should escalate that into passionate kissing sooner rather than later if you want her thinking of you sexually and as a romantic interest.

As for the that conversation. Wow. You lost a load of value here by A) getting all reactionary and logical, and B) you proved yourself right and probably made her lose value, again which lowers your own value.

What you should have done was cut that conversational thread and moved on to something that was positive and exciting and made her want to invest. Instead you did everything wrong and went down a completely negative path.

Also, that little score in your post is indicative of some pretty bad inner game. You need to work on your own self and think not in terms of me vs her or me vs him (in the case of AMOGs), but as two people who bring each other up. Do that and people will want to be in your company.

Chalk it up as a learning experience so now you know better for next time.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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