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Is there any reason to continue living in this town?

Abbott

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In my "Plan C?" thread I mentioned that very recently I completed an Associate's Degree. Now I'm having to consider going to a four year college to complete my education. I see this as an opportunity to ditch this town.

I figure that there's no better time, and the older I get the harder it gets to make a massive change like this. I also figure that I will NOT be happy if I continue living here. Any move will be a one way trip.

I think it's a good idea because:
- So far, I've lived here my whole life. I don't want to be stuck living here until I die.
- While I have a few drinking buddies, I don't have any friends or any other serious relationships, save for my parents (who can just come visit me). No one's going to miss me, and I won't lose much of anything.
- Occasionally I've run into people who went to my high school. It always turns out bad because while I do my best to be pleasant, I can always tell that they wish that they hadn't seen me. I wasn't cool in high school, and they still remember that. I don't get those negative vibes from people who didn't know me from back then.
- There is a local university I can probably go to, but I really don't want to go there (long story), and it's not just because doing so means I need to live here even longer.
- I'm very ticked off at our local city councils (officially two cities, but basically one community).


Pros:
- New area. Sure, the same chain stores are likely to be there but it's still different. It'll be a new experience. I've vacationed before but I know it's not the same as living there.
- Possible, but unlikely that I'll run into former high school classmates, especially if I go out of state like I want to.
- No one will know what I was like during high school, since I've definitely improved since then.
- Likely that I'll be able to find a community that has laws and common views that are more in line with what I think/feel.
- Far away from parents. They're good people and I'm glad I have them as my parents, but I can't stand seeing them every day like I do now.

Cons:
- Learning Curve/Unfamiliarity/Transition, though that's actually part of why I want to do this.
- Need to change/find certain things, such as new P.O. Box, new places to get different services, etc. No prior experience with those services (i.e. "is that oil change place a good one?").
- Paying housing costs and other living expenses that I formerly didn't have to pay for, and I would no longer live with my parents.
- If I go out of state, I'd have to pay the high rate until the minimum residency period passes. The move would be one way so I'll eventually complete the residency.
- It'll be harder to visit my parents, though I'm not so sure if that's a bad thing.
- I obviously have to move, which will be a pain. I hate moving, but I hate the thought of living here indefinitely even more.


To me, the Pros far outweigh the Cons. The transition would initially be a little scary, but I have a hunch that it's a good idea. I've met people who were 40, 50, or even 60 and lived in my town their whole lives. I do not want to turn into one of them.

The only compelling reason I can think of to come back is to visit my parents, and they can just come visit me instead.


Is there any other compelling reason why moving is a BAD idea? Why I should NOT do this?


Ben
 

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I moved from Florida to California with about two grand in my pocket. I came with a friend and we split expenses. I never regretted it! It was scary as hell, but I made it. And if I could make it, so can you!
 

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I just moved to a different city, after living off the folks for 19 years. Basically, save up a little bit of money (see above), and DO NOT BUY WANTS. All you need is a place to sleep (sleeping bag, couch, bed), food (dishes), basic utilities (water, gas, power) and a job.

Determine where you're at for expenses, and progress.
 

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Hey man, if you can handle the financial load then I say go for it. From reading what you've said, you're probably not going to regret it. Gaining some independence can be a really good thing. IMO, you'll be a better person cause of it.
 

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I usually move to a new town every 4 years or so (still living with my parents) and there's nothing I dislike about it. Actually, I hope one day I'll be able to work in a different country every couple of years.

Do it and you won't regret it, you can be sure.
 
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