"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Is there a turn-around? Entering FRIENDZONE

Love Ninja

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Okay, before I write this I KNOW I ****ed up... lol ...
So I ask for something constructive...

Met this fabulous singer-girl. Amazingly hot. I'm a music producer and she and I decided NOT to work together but to see each other.... I am VERY aware of singer, model, actress types, I work with them and their egos everyday, so I generally do not find them attractive. This chick seems more down to earth and well-adjusted. The "fame" thing is not a priority to her.

In the course of a week we hung at a bookstore, seen a movie, and went to a party together. Every day we'd call each other, text each other. Every interaction was amazing, funny, and smooth. We were very flirtatious with each other. She told me once she loved my confidence ... she felt very secure with me.

ENTER THE FRIENDZONE

This last Saturday I went to see her sing at ritzy hotel. All of her friends received me warmly. She was the center of attention in this HUGE room... and I felt "puppy-doggish" ... I told her we'd share a kiss before the night was over and gave her a hersey's kiss... she laughed but I WAS NOT MYSELF... crap... I decided I liked this one... alot!

I was invited out to eat with her and all her friends afterward. And they had been doing this for years. They are a clic and ALL type 'A' loud, funny personalities... THEY, not her, invited me on a day trip on Sunday. It was awkward since she said nothing. I asked to talk to her outside the group to see how she felt about it and THAT was even more awkward. She said "please come" and gave me the address to meet them at in the morning.

I texted her back latter that evening and humorously declined. She texted back that "I Suck :)" And she'd call to hook up with me in a few days.

I think that NOT going was the only good decision I made all weekend. Becoming a member of the clic was a formula for permanent friendzone.

SO... here I am ...it's Monday. No contact. I DIG this woman. Maybe too much.

I humbly ask ... Is there a turn-around for this weekend that puts me back on her radar?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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