The Decay of Meaning
Don Juan
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I really want to believe this girl, but I have great problems doing so. Should I trust her or not?
Episode 1: The day after we met, we had sex. Before we had sex without condoms, I asked her if she was clean and she said that the only guy she had been with since she was tested, used a condom. I asked her again "are you completely sure", and she said "yes". I asked her a third and fourth time after that a few days later (I don't know why, I guess I wanted to be completely sure).
Episode 2: A week or two after that, I started getting itchy, and when I peed it started to sting. I figured it was a urinary infection of some sort and it has happened to me before in the winter. I ignored it as it usually goes away after a week but it didn't. I confronted her and said I might have caught something. I told her I was going to check it and that I might have clamydia. She started changing her story, that the guy in episode 1 actually dropped the condom and came in her but she wasn't sure because she was drunk. I said "yes or no?", she replied "yes". At that point I felt it was suspcious. Why change the story when I bring in clamydia?
Episode 3: I meet her at the bus, but she is a bit distant, doesn't want to hold hands that much. I try to kiss her when we go off the buss, but she just blow smoke in my face. I find her attitude weird, so I go to buy groceries but my gut feeling says something is wrong. I check up on her. She is going on the bus, I go to talk to her so I prick her shoulder, and a guy behind her says "what? What?" annoyed or almost angrily. I asked her: Who is this guy, do you know him? She says no. Then later, she says it's a friend and they just met, because he owes her some money, so they were going to pick it up. Why lie about it? She later said that I could call the guy and call all the people there to check.
Why I should believe her:
* She stays over at my place a lot
* She wants us to have a serious relationship
* I think she genuinly cares about us and actually may almost be a little obsessed with me, in a positive way
* She seems sincere in her voice when I bring these issues up
So, is it just my radar that screams "get away, now!", or is it just me? Please also state why I should believe her, what I am missing her, because I really want to believe her (but it seems that I can't: I mean, why change the story? Her only explanation was that she started thinking more about it and the night was unclear to her because of the alcohol).
Episode 1: The day after we met, we had sex. Before we had sex without condoms, I asked her if she was clean and she said that the only guy she had been with since she was tested, used a condom. I asked her again "are you completely sure", and she said "yes". I asked her a third and fourth time after that a few days later (I don't know why, I guess I wanted to be completely sure).
Episode 2: A week or two after that, I started getting itchy, and when I peed it started to sting. I figured it was a urinary infection of some sort and it has happened to me before in the winter. I ignored it as it usually goes away after a week but it didn't. I confronted her and said I might have caught something. I told her I was going to check it and that I might have clamydia. She started changing her story, that the guy in episode 1 actually dropped the condom and came in her but she wasn't sure because she was drunk. I said "yes or no?", she replied "yes". At that point I felt it was suspcious. Why change the story when I bring in clamydia?
Episode 3: I meet her at the bus, but she is a bit distant, doesn't want to hold hands that much. I try to kiss her when we go off the buss, but she just blow smoke in my face. I find her attitude weird, so I go to buy groceries but my gut feeling says something is wrong. I check up on her. She is going on the bus, I go to talk to her so I prick her shoulder, and a guy behind her says "what? What?" annoyed or almost angrily. I asked her: Who is this guy, do you know him? She says no. Then later, she says it's a friend and they just met, because he owes her some money, so they were going to pick it up. Why lie about it? She later said that I could call the guy and call all the people there to check.
Why I should believe her:
* She stays over at my place a lot
* She wants us to have a serious relationship
* I think she genuinly cares about us and actually may almost be a little obsessed with me, in a positive way
* She seems sincere in her voice when I bring these issues up
So, is it just my radar that screams "get away, now!", or is it just me? Please also state why I should believe her, what I am missing her, because I really want to believe her (but it seems that I can't: I mean, why change the story? Her only explanation was that she started thinking more about it and the night was unclear to her because of the alcohol).