Is the split still here?

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Is there a split? Which group are you?

There is a split - I'm trying to get as many HB's as possible.
Votes: 0 0.0%
There is a split - I'm trying to find someone to grow old with.
Votes: 5 71.4%
There is a split, but I'm not really part of either camp.
Votes: 1 14.3%
I don't see a split, no.
Votes: 1 14.3%

Total voters

7

sAxyguy83

Senior Don Juan

May 22, 2004

A while ago, I noticed a distinct split in the ppl here. Most members fell into one of two groups - the group that DJ's around to have fun, no commitments or anything, and the group that was here to learn how to attract Miss Right for a LTR or similar. Has anyone else noticed this, and is it still there? If you do see a split, which group are you in?

If there is a noticeable split, perhaps a forum could be created specifically to deal with the kinds of issues that tend to only come up for long-term people.

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

Is the split still here?

Is there a split? Which group are you?

There is a split - I'm trying to get as many HB's as possible.

There is a split - I'm trying to find someone to grow old with.

There is a split, but I'm not really part of either camp.

I don't see a split, no.

sAxyguy83

Senior Don Juan

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"