"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is a relationship doomed to fail if you are not accepted by her family and friends? For instance, I have a female friend who just entered a LTR with a guy, but her family and friends do not like him for whatever reason. Right now, she is avoiding her family because of this, but she is very family-oriented. This got me to wondering does this relationship have any chance for success or is it dead in the water?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm not sure that there's anything more reckless than a woman in love. I think when a woman is truly crazy about a man, she will easily walk away from family and friends and all logical ties to a normal life. It's almost as if they truly believe that "all you need is love".

So, no. I dont think a relationship is doomed if the family and friends dislike the man. Women think with emotions first, and formulate their logic afterwards.
 
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Iceberg said:
I'm not sure that there's anything more reckless than a woman in love. I think when a woman is truly crazy about a man, she will easily walk away from family and friends and all logical ties to a normal life. It's almost as if they truly believe that "all you need is love".

So, no. I dont think a relationship is doomed if the family and friends dislike the man. Women think with emotions first, and formulate their logic afterwards.
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I have seen that to be true, but it seems to always reverse itself eventually. I think it's a matter of having a constant reminder of what you gave up. Any snag in the relationship is going to make her second-guess the decision of losing her relationship with her family. Missing them and guilt can amplify any relationship issues that may be lingering.
 
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I guess it depends. However, I do have a black friend that was dating a white girl. Her dad didn't approve of it because he was black so they broke up. Messed up right? It's too bad because they really like each other.
 
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PDubb75 said:
I have seen that to be true, but it seems to always reverse itself eventually. I think it's a matter of having a constant reminder of what you gave up. Any snag in the relationship is going to make her second-guess the decision of losing her relationship with her family. Missing them and guilt can amplify any relationship issues that may be lingering.
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I agree with this. It usually ends up happening like this.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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PDubb75 said:
I have seen that to be true, but it seems to always reverse itself eventually. I think it's a matter of having a constant reminder of what you gave up. Any snag in the relationship is going to make her second-guess the decision of losing her relationship with her family. Missing them and guilt can amplify any relationship issues that may be lingering.
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Yep, eventually she's going to run into some dude with the same qualities who is accepted by her family.
 
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