Is the girl interested in me or what?

[nelysses]

I saw a girl at my school (she is here once a week, I am there every day). I will be honest, I was afraid to go to her at first because I gained weight and I wrote her on Instagram. She was acting like she only responded and was cold. I stopped writing after 2-3 messages.

A while passed and I saw her again at school. We met 5-6 times and eventually I went and said hello to her in case she didn't like it. I normally thought she was cold but she was very talkative, always smiling and very sincere. I sat down and talked for a while (usually about school)
Then she got up because her friends called her.

She sent me a Story today, I wrote her again but she was still cold and only responded.
Honestly, I don't think it was because of the message because even if I ask her 2 things, she answers only one etc.

Do you think the girl was just polite when we were face to face or is there a different situation?

I don't know if the girl was interested in me but she was very sincere when we were face to face. Also, she was sitting while I was walking, I just walked past her during one of our encounters. Then I turned around because my friend called and I saw him looking at me too. So he knows I'm interested in him. But I don't know if he's interested in me.

 

[BPH]

Is this the same girl from this post?

As a man, I should go and get what I want vs. as a man, I should not go after a woman if she seems cold?

I saw a girl recently. I wrote her on Instagram because I had no connection. She replied but only replied. She didn't ask me anything in return and gave very short answers. After 3-4 messages, I stopped writing because she became cold. A few days ago, I saw her with her friends at school. Today...

www.sosuave.net

If so, why are you A. putting more thought into this, B. making a separate thread about her when that one's only a week old and C. asking us dumb sh** like whether she's interested when you haven't even tried asking her out.

Do this for me:

1. Stop fu**ing messaging girls on Instagram. You're clearly bad at it and they probably think you're a pu*** because you won't meet them in person first.
2. Ask her the f*** out. You keep wondering if she's interested. Wanna know a great way to find out? Ask her on a damn date instead of asking us whether her having conversation with you is an indicator of interest. By the way, I can almost guarantee you it's not - she's being polite because she has to deal with you in person, rather than online when she has the option to ignore you.
3. Go to the god damn gym and start approaching girls in person. Stop messaging girls on Instagram. Stop asking us whether X or Y girl is interested when you won't even ask them out.

You are constantly wasting your own time, and ours. If you want different results, do different things.

EDIT: Also I don't know what this is...

Then I turned around because my friend called and I saw him looking at me too. So he knows I'm interested in him. But I don't know if he's interested in me.

Are you gay or are these typos?

 

[nelysses]

Is this the same girl from this post?

As a man, I should go and get what I want vs. as a man, I should not go after a woman if she seems cold?

I saw a girl recently. I wrote her on Instagram because I had no connection. She replied but only replied. She didn't ask me anything in return and gave very short answers. After 3-4 messages, I stopped writing because she became cold. A few days ago, I saw her with her friends at school. Today...

www.sosuave.net

If so, why are you A. putting more thought into this, B. making a separate thread about her when that one's only a week old and C. asking us dumb sh** like whether she's interested when you haven't even tried asking her out.

Do this for me:

1. Stop fu**ing messaging girls on Instagram. You're clearly bad at it and they probably think you're a pu*** because you won't meet them in person first.
2. Ask her the f*** out. You keep wondering if she's interested. Wanna know a great way to find out? Ask her on a damn date instead of asking us whether her having conversation with you is an indicator of interest. By the way, I can almost guarantee you it's not - she's being polite because she has to deal with you in person, rather than online when she has the option to ignore you.
3. Go to the god damn gym and start approaching girls in person. Stop messaging girls on Instagram. Stop asking us whether X or Y girl is interested when you won't even ask them out.

You are constantly wasting your own time, and ours. If you want different results, do different things.

First of all, I do different things. I've been with a lot more girls since I signed up for this site. But every once in a while, I come across someone who's like "I shouldn't lose this girl" and everything in my head resets and I can't handle it. Because I afraid .

I want to take the girl out, but wouldn't it be absurd if it was direct? I don't know if it's because of the culture, but when I tried it before, I got very strange reactions. I was even told that I was a pervert. As you said, my goal is to talk face to face. But I only see the girl very occasionally. In that case, wouldn't it make sense to talk on Instagram (respond to her stories) from time to time? I know she uses Instagram a lot.

 

[BPH]

But every once in a while, I come across someone who's like "I shouldn't lose this girl" and everything in my head resets and I can't handle it. Because I afraid .

I guarantee you that you haven't been with enough women to know whether THIS one is special. The answer is: probably not. Very few women are. Just as very few people are special, or exceptional, in any way.

I want to take the girl out, but wouldn't it be absurd if it was direct?

Only if you prefer wasting your time wondering whether a girl likes you and constantly posting on here asking about them when you could've found out for yourself.

I don't know if it's because of the culture, but when I tried it before, I got very strange reactions. I was even told that I was a pervert.

So?

Recently I've had plenty of women have a problem with my age, and one even thinks I'm especially weird because I'm 31 years old in a college bar and thinks it's predatory that I'm interested in younger women.

Yeah, it bothers me a little in the moment, but if you read my last 2 lay reports you'd see that I met somebody else who DIDN'T have a problem with my age, along with another girl at a bar on my birthday who I made out with, along with ANOTHER girl I slept with after matching on Hinge.

Do you think I give a singular f*** about what that first girl thinks of me when I'm busy banging out these other 2? Hell no...

As you said, my goal is to talk face to face. But I only see the girl very occasionally. In that case, wouldn't it make sense to talk on Instagram (respond to her stories) from time to time? I know she uses Instagram a lot.

No. Stop being such a damn pu***.

Get a phone number and/or ask her out in person. Stop using Instagram to open these chicks. You're clearly bad at it since you keep having these problems. Even I barely use Instagram for that purpose - I think I've only ever slept with 1 girl I opened via Instagram.

Stop looking for the easy way out.

Matter of fact, if you don't like listening to my advice, go read @nicksaiz65 's recent lay report. He went outside his comfort zone, by himself, and ended up smashing a random girl he cold approached on his night out.

 

[nelysses]

I guarantee you that you haven't been with enough women to know whether THIS one is special. The answer is: probably not. Very few women are. Just as very few people are special, or exceptional, in any way.



Only if you prefer wasting your time wondering whether a girl likes you and constantly posting on here asking about them when you could've found out for yourself.



So?

Recently I've had plenty of women have a problem with my age, and one even thinks I'm especially weird because I'm 31 years old in a college bar and thinks it's predatory that I'm interested in younger women.

Yeah, it bothers me a little in the moment, but if you read my last 2 lay reports you'd see that I met somebody else who DIDN'T have a problem with my age, along with another girl at a bar on my birthday who I made out with, along with ANOTHER girl I slept with after matching on Hinge.

Do you think I give a singular f*** about what that first girl thinks of me when I'm busy banging out these other 2? Hell no...



No. Stop being such a damn pu***.

Get a phone number and/or ask her out in person. Stop using Instagram to open these chicks. You're clearly bad at it since you keep having these problems. Even I barely use Instagram for that purpose - I think I've only ever slept with 1 girl I opened via Instagram.

Stop looking for the easy way out.

Matter of fact, if you don't like listening to my advice, go read @nicksaiz65 's recent lay report. He went outside his comfort zone, by himself, and ended up smashing a random girl he cold approached on his night out.

So my last question. I know you are against Instagram for these things(I still don't quite understand, there are many people around me who met here. I'm not talking about writing to someone from 0, I'm talking about starting a conversation with someone I know. I guess I'm really bad after "Hello".). But is it worth asking someone out who is already acting cold on Instagram face to face? Or should I pretend the Instagram part doesn't exist?

 

[BPH]

So my last question. I know you are against Instagram for these things(I still don't quite understand, there are many people around me who met here. I'm not talking about writing to someone from 0, I'm talking about starting a conversation with someone I know. I guess I'm really bad after "Hello".). But is it worth asking someone out who is already acting cold on Instagram face to face? Or should I pretend the Instagram part doesn't exist?

Brother, what the f*** do you want?

Do you want to ask her out and get your answer immediately?

Or do you want to keep being a pu*** wondering "what if"?

 

[Oatmeal31]

So my last question. I know you are against Instagram for these things(I still don't quite understand, there are many people around me who met here. I'm not talking about writing to someone from 0, I'm talking about starting a conversation with someone I know. I guess I'm really bad after "Hello".). But is it worth asking someone out who is already acting cold on Instagram face to face? Or should I pretend the Instagram part doesn't exist?

I wouldn't recommend instagram for hitting on girls at all. It keeps you in your comfort zone and 99% of the time, you're wasting your time and feeding a girl attention. You may get invested in someone who is no more than a digital presence and just uses you as validation. Part of the reason dating apps suck ****

In any case, just stick to doing things in person. Hope that helps

If you are ever wondering if a girl is into you, the only way to know is to ask them out. Some girls flirt for fun and happen to be in a relationship or bored, some girls never look your way and ignore you in settings you frequent when it turns out they like you, some girls show all the signs and will still turn you down. Only way to truly know is to ask them out, period. That said, I think the one you mentioned isn't interested

 

[Isildur1]

You need more options- go and approach more women, if you’re overthinking one girl it’s a sign that you don’t have enough in the pipeline