"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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is SS really that effective?

Drug_L0rd

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hi

how are you all. i'm pretty new to SS but not to DJing. i want to know, is SS really that effective or is what i'm reading just bullsh!t talk?

some of the patterns and things i read, i notice there is a lot of complimenting the girl. like 'you are so beautiful', etc. plus there's a lot of emotional talking trying to conect with the chick emotionally. doesn't this put you in a very bad position. you can very easily become a chick's emotional tampon, saying things like 'i want understanding and trust in a relationship' etc. don't you come off as a sort of...soft, nice-guy type of person.

i don't know. is there a special thing or do you just get the hang of it the more you do it. just like DJing.

should i give it a shot, is it really worth it?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It all depends on the kind of person you are. It does work, but depending on the level of proficiency you have. I simply suggest to you to read up on it more and decide for yourself, as it really depends on the person. Some guys think its bullsht and ingore it, others apply it a little to help out their game, and the rest live by it. In the end it all depends on your perspectives.
 

Drug_L0rd

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ok, i understand that.

but have you had any use for it?

do you live by it, use it here and there or do you think it's bullsh!t?

HAHA, what makes me laugh is there's been one hundred and something views of this post by the people on this forum, who follow what is said on this forum and not one has replied to my question. some followers, hehe.
 

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I never really use other peoples pattrens I like it better when I come up with my own.

In SS you get what you put in if you only read a little you'll only get that much out of it.
 

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Of course it works and you can use it everywhere. And you dont come out as a nice guy because you don't use I and YOU in your patterns.

But it requires phenomenal communication skills, undivided attention and practice to be good at it. Also reading a hundred books about psychology wouldn't hurt.

But you still can get enough a$$ without SS, so it's not a requirement.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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