Is spinning plates in HS bad?

[Scars]

I'm not in HS anymore, I just graduated. But I still talk to girls in HS, and I'm starting to realize that younger girls get a lot more butthurt when they find out you're talking to other girls. It seems like they all expect you to talk and go on dates with only THEM. If they find out about other girls, they ask questions and start getting psycho. You would think in a way it raises there IL, which it does sometimes, but in my case the girl usually just thinks I'm a player and starts to avoid me, because I have a reputation as being a player in this town. (Small towns suck :/) I was spinning around 4-5 plates and a few of them started finding out about each other and we lost touch. Now I'm down to only too, and they both found out about each other even though they go to different schools. One girl told me she thought we should "stop talking if you're talking to that other girl too" so I gave in and told her I would stop talking to her. Which is a completely lie. I talk to both everyday, and I got them both going really good, in the palm of my hand. But it's ****ing lame how I have to keep it a secret. I have to avoid hanging out with them in public places because if somebody sees me then my plan will be blown. So idk. Haha, does anyone else have this problem?

 

[BlakeW5]

In any closed environment "plate spinning" (I hate that term for some reason) is going to be hard to pull off. Not only is it a high-school problem, but it's also a HUGE small town problem. People in small towns have nothing better to do than talk about others and pry into other's business. It'll get even worse is you start to see one girl exclusively, believe me...

Highschool is more an insecure/immature issue with girls. Most are insecure about their "status" with you and they're immature enough to think that dating/seeing one another means that all other women get shut out. Oddly enough though they seem to fail to see the problem with them talking to other guys!

If you're going to see multiple women, don't pander to their emotions when they get tore up over your "activities". It sets the wrong frame, that you're ashamed of what you're doing, and gives the girl a way to control you. Tell 'em to either get over it or get out. If you played your cards right they'll toe-the-line real quick. It's also an effective means of filtering out girls with insecurities and jealousy issues.

 

[SinJester]

It's bad. Short answer.

It depends how you spin the plates. I 'spin plates' but very softly. I don't go to the movies with one girl and then make out with another at a party after we have been texting. However I might be texting a few chicks at once. In a single high school in a small town like mine, I can't and wont go fcking around with chicks. So i do what I call soft plate spinning, if something turns more serious I slowly fade off the other girls.

 

[Cassanova_Child]

yeah in HS u cant really spin plates..... you can do the 'soft' thing the guy above me said, but when you get with a girl, DONT STOP txting, etc... with the other chicks. keep options open.

 

[(JJ)]

i've even had some really bad experiences with the "soft plate spinning."
turns out, high school girls are extremely possessive. lol. they assume when you text them, that they're the only ones getting your attention. however, the problems i had came when i was not upfront about my plate spinning. since these, i haven't had problems when i specifically say stuff like "now i want you to know that our relationship isn't exclusive and i still plan on talking to and possibly dating other girls. if this is going to be a problem for you, please tell me now so we don't have any further issues."
typically, their not so upset as long as you're honest about it.

BUT if they are upset, then why would you want them anyway? you're a free high school guy in the prime of life! what benefit does being tied down offer?

 

[AlexParadox]

I really hope you guys are kidding.

"spinning plates"
or whatever you wana call it, is absolutely fine in highschool.
stop b!tching about it and learn a few simple rules:

1. the girls cannot have any connection between eachother (school/friends)
2. dont talk about having multiple girls to anyone
3. if you hope to "keep spinning": NEVER commit

highschool is the place to experience and try new things. If you cant do it in highschool, where exactly are you going to?

 

[SinJester]

I'll clarify, you can spin plates if you are just hooking up with girls, just make it clear you don't want a full on relationship. It's easier than you think and it works. Then you can spin as much as you lads want.

 

[Scars]

An for an update. I just got caught. I was at the movies with girl #1 and guess who happened to also be at the movies that night? You betcha, now she wont even talk to me. Oh well.

And ya, that is true, but you can only hook up with girls so long before they start becoming attached and then keep pushing to be exclusive. I'm suprised I held out as long as I did.