"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is something wrong with me?

R3N3G4D3

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Recently I've started seeing a girl, everything was going fine except now I feel like she might be cooling down to me. But that's not what I'm asking about, I kinda ****ed up a little and I think I know where.

The real problem is that I think I'm attracted to her but I wonder if I actually am. She's good-looking with a nice body, and she's very fun to talk to. Before I started seeing her, however, I was wanking it everyday just so my friend wouldn't get erected randomly. Now that I'm seeing her, I haven't had an erection for almost a week (good thing we didn't try to have sex yet, that would be embarrassing). I do realize that I might be thinking about her a bit more than I should (since she's the only girl I'm seeing now), but it's definitely not a case of oneitis. My question is if that's my body's way of saying that there is no sexual attraction (and that I only think I might be because I enjoy conversations with her), or is it stress from school/seeing her/other stuff, or is it something else?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Oxide

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Please do not ask if you should listen to your penis to make a decision.
 
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