Is Silence Really Golden?

[Glassguy]

Pure accident I was having some drinks at the house with a pal. Wasn't drunk, but kinda tipsy.

Anyway. My pal went to use the bathroom, so I decided to look at my Bumble account.

As I was swiping away, I wasn't even concentrating and barely looking. I swiped right on a couple of hotties, and by accident swiped right on her profile.

To be honest, I wasn't sure it was her.. I kinda thought for a moment "Wait was that my ex"

Its only later that night, she messaged me in Bumble, and then the penny dropped.

So much for keeping NC.. Anyway I haven't responded back to her, and I reckon it might make me look petty, if I unmatch her.

I get it. But I guess I see things differently with the very toxic women (albeit just a small amount) who are exes.
I look at things as such: why go back to something that will fail when there are sooo many better dating options out there. And let's be honest......these toxic women (BPD, narcissist traits, etc) are REALLY good at getting us sucked back in. You finally got away, learned who they were, understand how addictive they can be in a very destructive way......I just don't see where it's even worth it to revive something like that to any degree.

No matter how things start with those types of women the ending is always the same. And it's not a good situation to be in.
Who cares if you think it makes you look petty if you know it's the healthiest option for you to remove her. And keep her removed.
Just my thoughts. I learned at an early age that something very hot will burn me. So I don't keep touching it.

 

[The_Sea_Wolf]

Ex girlfriend, I currently walked away from, due to her not appreciating my time and efforts in the relationship.

I ghosted her because she was barely making any effort to text me.. After 7 days of radio silence from me, she ended the relationship.

However.. she has started messaging me on bumble (Clearly she joined bumble again to meet other men)

She is intentionally guilt tripping me, blaming me for the demise of the relationship.

Should I even reply back to her false accusations? Or is ignoring her the better option.

I wouldn't waste my time, let her talk **** about you, let her talk **** to her friends, women know when another woman is talking **** that she got dumped. It will give you intrigue points for not responding to her.

If you are going to say anything at all to her say "I am sorry, I have no further use for you" then block her.

 

[soulforge]

I wouldn't waste my time, let her talk **** about you, let her talk **** to her friends, women know when another woman is talking **** that she got dumped. It will give you intrigue points for not responding to her.

If you are going to say anything at all to her say "I am sorry, I have no further use for you" then block her.

Well she sent me a text message tonight, with a wall of BS in it.. A bunch of gaslighting I reckon.. I didn't even read it lol.. just deleted the text and ignored the bich.

 

[The_Sea_Wolf]

Well she sent me a text message tonight, with a wall of BS in it.. A bunch of gaslighting I reckon.. I didn't even read it lol.. just deleted the text and ignored the bich.

THIS IS THE WAY!

 

[BaronOfHair]

-No, in regards to replying, since she's already ended things

-In the future, be direct and end relationships you're unsatisfied with. Flaking and ghosting are feminine behaviors

 

[Divorced w 3]

She reconnected with you on BUMBLE. Come on dude, use your head. Ouch.