Is She Worth It-find Out
Williams Shakespeare once wrote “ALL THAT GLITTERS IS NOT GOLD”, Spock said “WANTING IS MUCH MORE APPEALING THAN HAVING” I suspect they were referring to the female species. Lets say you see a target you would like to approach and one day date, how can you determine if they have long term potential or value. Will they enhance your life, be a distraction or an emotional vampire. Are you willing to make that investment/commitment. Lets take a look at some salient variables that can determine if they are worthy of your time.
1) QUALITY-well in this case, looks do matter initially. Face to body ratio, personal hygiene, clothes, all should be considered. Skill set should also be factored in, as great sex is addictive.
2) TIME-the amount of time it takes to gain compliance at various escalation levels, travel time, getting a response/reply, etc. Keep in mind the busier you are the more valuable your time is.
3) EFFORT-the amount of energy you expend while seducing this individual, defusing resistance from her, from her friends, establishing rapport, trust, forming an emotional anchor, escalation. Do you chase her more than she chases you, is it always an effort to get her compliance.
4) MONEY-who pays the majority of the time, type of entertainment (fancy restaurants, concerts, etc) amount of gas used (who drives most of the time), phone calls/texting can be costly if you don’t have a plan. Gifts/flowers, cards , do they have a good job.
5) DISTANCE-long distance relationships consume a lot more time/effort. Geographic desirability should always be factored in.
6) FREQEUNCY PRIORITY-are you a priority in their life?. How many times can you see them 1-3 times a week, 1-3 times a month, 1 night stand, 5 times a week. Too much time spent together can decrease the novelty instantly. Too little can lead to low interest levels.
7) EMOTIONS-high maintenance women require a great deal of patience, how often do you argue, how often do they initiate, do they reschedule from time to time, do they always have an excuse, do they tend to talk a lot, are they very emotional, do they need to be wined and dined first. When you become tired, irritated, frustrated you often hear words like “lets cut to the chase, whats the bottom line, whats it going to take, etc basically you compromise/concede more often.
8) COMPETITION-do they have an ex still very much in their lives, do they have kids that consume most of her free time, do they have a ton of friends they hang with, does she work a lot of overtime, does she have a lot of male friends, how often does she do a girls night out, etc.
9) PERSONALITY-various personalities can also determine compatibility cohesion. Certain people just clash, the second part to chemistry is personality. They may be rude, obnoxious, use profanity, abusive, etc.
10) ACTIONS-their behavior in private vs. public, bad habits, annoying ticks, imperfections, interest levels, loyalty, drama queens, their past often reveals their current situation.
Williams Shakespeare once wrote “ALL THAT GLITTERS IS NOT GOLD”, Spock said “WANTING IS MUCH MORE APPEALING THAN HAVING” I suspect they were referring to the female species. Lets say you see a target you would like to approach and one day date, how can you determine if they have long term potential or value. Will they enhance your life, be a distraction or an emotional vampire. Are you willing to make that investment/commitment. Lets take a look at some salient variables that can determine if they are worthy of your time.
1) QUALITY-well in this case, looks do matter initially. Face to body ratio, personal hygiene, clothes, all should be considered. Skill set should also be factored in, as great sex is addictive.
2) TIME-the amount of time it takes to gain compliance at various escalation levels, travel time, getting a response/reply, etc. Keep in mind the busier you are the more valuable your time is.
3) EFFORT-the amount of energy you expend while seducing this individual, defusing resistance from her, from her friends, establishing rapport, trust, forming an emotional anchor, escalation. Do you chase her more than she chases you, is it always an effort to get her compliance.
4) MONEY-who pays the majority of the time, type of entertainment (fancy restaurants, concerts, etc) amount of gas used (who drives most of the time), phone calls/texting can be costly if you don’t have a plan. Gifts/flowers, cards , do they have a good job.
5) DISTANCE-long distance relationships consume a lot more time/effort. Geographic desirability should always be factored in.
6) FREQEUNCY PRIORITY-are you a priority in their life?. How many times can you see them 1-3 times a week, 1-3 times a month, 1 night stand, 5 times a week. Too much time spent together can decrease the novelty instantly. Too little can lead to low interest levels.
7) EMOTIONS-high maintenance women require a great deal of patience, how often do you argue, how often do they initiate, do they reschedule from time to time, do they always have an excuse, do they tend to talk a lot, are they very emotional, do they need to be wined and dined first. When you become tired, irritated, frustrated you often hear words like “lets cut to the chase, whats the bottom line, whats it going to take, etc basically you compromise/concede more often.
8) COMPETITION-do they have an ex still very much in their lives, do they have kids that consume most of her free time, do they have a ton of friends they hang with, does she work a lot of overtime, does she have a lot of male friends, how often does she do a girls night out, etc.
9) PERSONALITY-various personalities can also determine compatibility cohesion. Certain people just clash, the second part to chemistry is personality. They may be rude, obnoxious, use profanity, abusive, etc.
10) ACTIONS-their behavior in private vs. public, bad habits, annoying ticks, imperfections, interest levels, loyalty, drama queens, their past often reveals their current situation.
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