"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is she shy or a b!tch?

MikeYikes122

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I was trying to talk to this girl in my apartment complex yesterday, and she was being real one-wordish. Sometimes she barely even said a word at all.

I'm not going to type out the complete conversation, because I'm lazy and not really looking for advice about the girl in particular. Rather, I'm wondering if you guys ever have a hard time telling the difference between a girl who is extremely shy or a b!tch who just doesn't want to have a conversation.

I'm pretty intuitive when it comes to girls, but this is one of the departments I am bad in because I'm not a shy person at all and I like really like any attention I can get, especially when it is from girls.

Any thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MikeYikes122

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I honestly don't even remember. I'm just more concerned about the question hypothetically.
 

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Oh sorry re-read.

Hmmm, yeah it can be hard to tell at times but generally if a chick gives off a vibe of nervous energy when you talk to her and has her eyes darting away at times or looks at her feet and moves her body around nervously as you try to talk to her that one is shy. Also the truly shy tend to walk slowly with their head slightly down so as to avoid eye contact with anyone.

The b!tch is usually a chick that is quiet when you talk to her in a disrespectful way of looking at you like you are nothing and they generally have their lips pursed together like they just got done sucking on one particularly nasty lemon. Tend to have an overconfident arrogant b!tchy stride while walking.
 

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Yeah, I see what you guys are talking about. The girl is just shy, like really, really, shy.

I just got back from running, and I saw her again. I had my my shirt off and she just looked at the ground the entire time and kept from looking at me, which was weird because I had just broken the ice with her like two hours before. Not to imply that I am extremely muscular or something like that, but I think I intimidated her.

I have a great intuition for a lot of things, but I have a hard time picking up when a girl is intimidated/shy or stuck-up/b!tchy. People who are shy or reserved usually end up being my best friends or girlfriends if they are girls. Or, they end up becoming people are really dislike.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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