"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is she rejecting me?

123kill!!

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I need to be detailed so don't mind reading, and excuse my english and grammar.
I asked a girl for hangout today, here's how it goes. I told her that i wanted to tell her something and we should go to somewhere more quiet to talk(The class's really loud), she followed me outside and i told her that i wanted to hangout with her this weekend, she thought for 2 seconds and she told me she has a lot to do this weekend and she said sorry, i asked why she's so busy(smiling at the same time to keep my dignity), she said she has dance class on saturday(which is actually true) and she also has tutor class(cause she did bad on her test) and club activity for the rest of the weekend, she said she barely has any free time now and it's really painful, maybe if she did well on her next test she will have some free time on her weekends, she was smiling the whole time because i was smiling, she didn't know that i was falling apart inside. She wasn't making much of eye contact with me(she never really make much eye contact with me) and her tone was rather tensed(which is the same as the tone she ussually have when talking to me).
But i'm still confused, i was pretty sure she likes me, and two of my friends(one guy and one girl, both had experience with relationships) and they both said that i should have made it clear that the hangout's more like a date, and she's too busy for a hangout but not a relation with me. Is it true? Is there any solutions to it?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Greasy Pig

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Classic friend zone move. Women rarely say "No" to a date request, they'll just make excuses.
The fact she didn't make a counter offer should tell you that she's not interested.
Sorry bro, cut your losses and invest your time and emotions on a girl who really wants to be with you.
 

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Spend time on yourself so you don't have to come on a forum and ask if a girl is rejecting you. How are you with girls in general?
 

Purefilth

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yeah man, its a NO. She's not interested.
 

thevilittletroll

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if she was attracted to you, she would find time to go out with you no matter how busy she says she is. work on your attraction game.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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VladPatton

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No need to fall apart, man. When they is an excuse with no counter offer, it is pretty much a done deal. Man up, act like nothing happened next time you see her, and keep moving forward with other girls, school, life.

This is common battlefield injury and should not be looked at as defeat.
 
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