Is she playing hard to get?

[MichaelANG]

This girl clearly seemed interested in me when I had seen her and we talked for a while. I eventually asked her out that Friday and got her number but she said her friend had just gotten engaged and is going to see them but any other day would be fine. We've been texting for a few days now and I had texted her about going bowling on Sunday and her response was "I'm not looking to date right now but if that wasn't your intention that is ok, I just wanted to lay it out all there"... So I said, "no problem I just wanted to have some fun, nothing serious, you just seemed like a real down to earth girl, easy to talk to". We still text back and forth but going out together hasn't been mentioned again because I'll wait to ask her in person when I see her at the gym again. Btw, I usually initiate the texts and she always answers. Either way, I'm still enjoying this chase and I have plenty of other girls I can take out. Opinions? Thanks bros

 

[nemz]

I'd try it these other girls, cuz you aint getting sweet sugar walls from this one, while the other guys she is ****ing aint chasing her at all.

Just my 2 pence

 

[VladPatton]

She's clearly not interested, next her. No need for chasing, it gives her all the control and makes you look desperate and needy with no options. Also, delete her number. You don't need to apologize with a 1200 word text to her. There is no shame in you wanting to date and bang her. Next time just text "ok" and delet that biznitch's digits.

 

[Nickface]

Yea buddy this really is a no brainer. She's simply just not interested in you. Most people on this site have a problem with the fact that they don't know if a girl is interested in them or not. You had it laid out for you and your still not accepting it. You won't be able to change this girls mind unfortunately.

Please please please never initiate another conversation with this girl and absolutely don't chase her. She already has the upper hand. Don't lose a arm and leg for this chick when she's not worth it.

 

[Maximus Rex]

You Did A lot of Things Wrong

This girl clearly seemed interested in me when I had seen her and we talked for a while.

What constitutes "a while?" You don't have till the return of Halley's Comet to make a move on a woman. The window of opportunity that you have is only opened for short period of time. If you aren't quick and decisive in your actions concerning a women, two things will happen.

1) Some other guy will come and do the things you should have done.

2) She'll lose interest in you and you'll lose value in her eyes. She'll feel that you lacked the courage and conviction to approach her and she will deem you to be the much loathed beta male. Also, subconsciously she'll rationalize to herself, "Well damn, if he's scared of little ole me. A person that's smaller and weaker than him, how is he going to protect me from villainy and evil doers? She'll translate your hesitancy in approaching as weakness and fear on your part, thus causing you to have an inability to protect her. That's the number one feeling you need to convey to a woman, a sense of security.

We've been texting for a few days now

Texting about what? Rex guarantees to you that during the course of these "text marathons," you said something that turned her off, or simply showed her too much unwarranted attention. Our good friend Harry Wilimgton has done several podcasts on this very subject, on how texting will cause a woman to lose interest. Also, how much time elapsed from the time you secured the number, from the time you asked for the date and did you ask for a date via text? Anyway, you need to listen to this.

Episode 8: Stop Being Indecisive and Start Making Decisions

Episode 10: Stop Contacting Her Between Dates

http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/13/

Episode 29: Stop Thinking She’s Playing Hard to Get


http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/11/

Episode 98: Stop Losing Women Mailbag #9 – How Long to Wait to Ask Her Out if She’s Showing Interest After the First Date

Epsiode 96: Stop Being Afraid She’ll Forget You

http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/4/

and I had texted her about going bowling on Sunday

There's two schools of thought on So Suave about asking a chick via texting. The group in the affirmative says do it and it's an effective means to ask a woman out. I'm in the opposition which says that asking a woman out should either be done in (preferably,) in person or on the phone.

In order for a chick to a accept a date via text, she has to already have a high interest in as result of previous interactions and it's obvious that this chick's interest level wasn't high enough. I would advise for you (until you've gained more in field experience to lay off asking women out for dates via texts. If you're adamant about using texting as your primary means of communication with women, then hit up Peaks&Valleys via his PM box. Out of all the proponents of texting on this forum, his advice is the most rationale and sound.

and her response was "I'm not looking to date right now but if that wasn't your intention that is ok, I just wanted to lay it out all there"...

This broad is funny, she's not looking to "date," right now, but I wonder what her response would be to Leonardo DiCaprio. Anyway, what you need to learn is to translate from the wom*nese that statement...."I'm not looking to date...YOU right now but if that wasn't your intention, then you're more than welcome to trick off money on me, indulge in this pseudo boyfriend/girlfriend relationship for the night, and most importantly satisfy my insatiable need for attention from the opposite sex.

In a nut shell this what happened to you

Signs of No Or Little Interest
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=111961​

1) She'll Tell You

This my boys is a effin' God send. You have a chick that actually has the balls and the common decency to tell you that she's doesn't want to talk to you. What more could you want? No ambiguities. No duplicitous actions. No communicating. It's right there in plain English, SHE DOESN'T WANT TO F*CK WITH YOU!!! With all that being said. There should be NO ONE coming into this site asking how to get a chick to like you that has already said, she isn't interested.

So I said, "no problem I just wanted to have some fun, nothing serious, you just seemed like a real down to earth girl, easy to talk to".

Wrong response, you shouldn't have replied back or said anything at all.

We still text back and forth

Why are you texting her back and forth and how this benefit you? She isn't going to change her mind.

but going out together hasn't been mentioned again because I'll wait to ask her in person when I see her at the gym again.

:crackup: You funny. What do realistically expect to be different about asking her out in person as oppose to asking her out via text? She's going to have an epiphany or some sorts, realize what great and wonderful guy you, then see how going out with you will be a vast improvement to her quality of life?:crackup: If anything this going to happen:

3) She Stands You Up This epitomizes rudeness and disrespect.

There's also no reason for whatsoever. Damn near everybody has a cellphone and most people know ahead of time if they can't make a date. If a chick stands you up, that means she's going out with her friend's or the guy she really wants to suck and f*ck called.

When a chick does this, basically she's saying that she wasn't really interested in you, you were the middle reliever, and that you and your time means ZERO to her. There's no reason to call, e-mail, or text, and ask for an explanation, she's made it perfectly clear. Also, texts and e-mails ARE NOT ACCEPTABLE responses in regards to explaining not showing up. Texts and e-mails are very informal, non-confrontational, and it takes the pressure off of her. Make her explain in person or on the phone why she stood you up. If you make plans again, and she still doesn't show, the b*tch is a flake and you need to move on.

4) Unwilling To Meet

This is mainly in regards to meeting people via the Net, but applies when you get a number too. If you're corresponding with a chick, but she's not willing to meet you in person. She's not feeling you. Next her.

Btw, I usually initiate the texts and she always answers.

Damn, Rex sees that you're campaigning hard for that promotion from being merely a legionnaire to being a centurion in her legion of followers. You know she's only replying to your texts because she's bored, she's not currently fallating somebody, and most importantly, you're giving her much needed attention fix.

Either way, I'm still enjoying this chase

Pray tell, you do find in enjoyment in exercises of futility kind sir? Unless, you're viewing this as strictly practice, then you're wasting time.

and I have plenty of other girls I can take out.

Rex calls into question the veracity of this statement.

 

[GotED?]

What constitutes "a while?" You don't have till the return of Halley's Comet to make a move on a woman. The window of opportunity that you have is only opened for short period of time. If you aren't quick and decisive in your actions concerning a women, two things will happen.

1) Some other guy will come and do the things you should have done.

2) She'll lose interest in you and you'll lose value in her eyes. She'll feel that you lack the courage and conviction to approach her and she will deem you a the much loathe beta male. Also, subconsciously she'll rationalize to herself, "Well damn, if he's scared of little ole me. A person that's smaller and weaker than him, how is he going to protect me from villainy and evil doers? She'll translate your hesitancy in approaching as weakness and fear on your part, thus causing you to have an inability to protect her. That's the number one feeling you need to convey to a woman, a sense of security.



Texting about what? Rex guarantees to you that during the course of these "text marathons," you said something that turn her off, or simply care her too much unwarranted attention. Our good friend Harry Wilimgton has done podcasts on this very subject on how texting will cause a woman to lose interest. Also, how much time elapsed from the time you secured the number, from the time you asked for the date and did you ask for a date via text? Anyway, you need to listen to this.

Episode 8: Stop Being Indecisive and Start Making Decisions

Episode 10: Stop Contacting Her Between Dates

http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/13/

Episode 29: Stop Thinking She’s Playing Hard to Get


http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/11/

Episode 98: Stop Losing Women Mailbag #9 – How Long to Wait to Ask Her Out if She’s Showing Interest After the First Date

Epsiode 96: Stop Being Afraid She’ll Forget You

http://www.stoplosingwomen.com/page/4/



There's two schools of thought on So Suave about asking a chick via texting. The group in the affirmative says do it and it's an effective means to ask a woman. I'm in the opposition which says that asking a woman out should either be done in (preferably,) in person or on the phone.

In other for a chick to a accept a date via text, she has to already have a high interest in as result of previous interactions and it's obvious that this chick's interest level wasn't high enough. I would advise for you (until you've gained more in field experience to lay off asking women out for dates via texts. If you're adamant about using texting as your primary means of communication with women, then hit up Peaks&Valleys via his PM box. Out of all the proponents of texting on this forum his advice is the most rationale and sound.



This broad is funny, she's not looking to "date," right now, but I wonder what her response would be to Leonardo DiCaprio. Anyway, what you need to learn is to translate from the wom*nese that statement...."I'm not looking to date...YOU right now but if that wasn't your intention, then you're more than welcome to trick off money on me, indulge in this pseudo boyfriend/girlfriend relationship for the night, and most importantly satisfy my insatiable need for attention from the opposite sex.

In a nut shell this what happened to you

Signs of No Or Little Interest​

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=111961

1) She'll Tell You

This my boys is a effin' God send. You have a chick that actually has the balls and the common decency to tell you that she's doesn't want to talk to you. What more could you want? No ambiguities. No duplicitous actions. No communicating. It's right there in plain English, SHE DOESN'T WANT TO F*CK WITH YOU!!! With all that being said. There should be NO ONE coming into this site asking how to get a chick to like you that has already said, she isn't interested.




Wrong response, you shouldn't have replied back or said anything at all.



Why are you texting her back and forth and how this benefit you? She isn't going to change her mind.



:crackup: You funny. What do realistically expect to be different about asking her out in person as oppose to asking her out via text? She's going to have an epiphany or some sorts, realize what great and wonderful guy you, then see how going out with you will be a vast improvement to her quality of life?:crackup: If anything this going to happen:

3) She Stands You Up This epitomizes rudeness and disrespect.

There's also no reason for whatsoever. Damn near everybody has a cellphone and most people know ahead of time if they can't make a date. If a chick stands you up, that means she's going out with her friend's or the guy she really wants to suck and f*ck called.

When a chick does this, basically she's saying that she wasn't really interested in you, you were the middle reliever, and that you and your time means ZERO to her. There's no reason to call, e-mail, or text, and ask for an explanation, she's made it perfectly clear. Also, texts and e-mails ARE NOT ACCEPTABLE responses in regards to explaining not showing up. Texts and e-mails are very informal, non-confrontational, and it takes the pressure off of her. Make her explain in person or on the phone why she stood you up. If you make plans again, and she still doesn't show, the b*tch is a flake and you need to move on.

4) Unwilling To Meet

This is mainly in regards to meeting people via the Net, but applies when you get a number too. If you're corresponding with a chick, but she's not willing to meet you in person. She's not feeling you. Next her.



Damn, Rex sees that you're campaigning hard for that promotion from being merely a legionnaire to being a centurion in her legion of followers. You know she's only replying to your texts because she's bored, she's not currently fallating somebody, and most importantly, you're giving her must needed attention fix.



Pray tell, you do find in enjoyment in exercises of futility kind sir? Unless, you're viewing this as strictly practice, then you're wasting time.



Rex calls into question the veracity of this statement.

HOT DAMN!!

I think we found our new upgraded, improved, version 2.0 PlayHerMan service pack 1 - release 'Maximus Rex'.
Exodus

 

[GS750]

There will always been another girl. This one isn't interested.

 

[Mike32ct]

Don't be her text buddy. Pull the plug on this one.

 

[El Payaso]

I'll tell you what Maximus Rex just said but in a sweeter and shorter form. Delete her number and go after other girls. Simple. Period.