is she playing hard to get or what?

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Girl is from work, we've been chatting here and there, one night we're both outside and we're talking for a while, i thought everything was going great. So i ask for her #, and she says"im not that easy". We both laughed said g'nite and split, and she waved. I literally bump into her again today, and she lights up when she sees me, and she says "waiting to see me huh?". I dunno what she wants here, i thought we could hook up, but its like she wants to play games or something, I have no idea what my next move should be.

 

[Bill]

One thing's for sure, she's not playing the cold game.

Get some more rapport going, then ask for the number once more. If she still says no, move on. You don't have months to waste on this particular girl.

Stay in control, don't let what she SAYS influence you.

-Bill

 

[Lesson4u]

Gimme,

There are a lot of variables at play here and it would take too long to go into the whole process so I'll bottom line it for you: her statements indicate that she is setting the frame that she is of higher status than you. Your statements back to her are supporting it. Maybe she does like you but until you can demonstrate higher value and stop jumping through her hoops, you will go nowhere with her.

Furthermore, I think it is a really bad idea to date girls from work. There are too many out in the bars, malls, etc., etc., to jeopardize screwing up anything at work.

Good luck..............Lesson

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Thanks for the reply Bill. Im sure i could build even more rapport, but im tellin ya man, the rapport is already strong enough. In my mind i dont wanna keep talking to her at work thing. Time to get things going,its like she wants me to beat around the bush. I've gotten much farther with girls with much less rapport then i have with her. Funny thing is she was actually hinting at us doing something the other day.

 

[insidious]

Bill and less4u give you good advice.

You guys have talked "here and there." What does that mean?

I think you gotta spend some more "here" time with her and show her *****y a$$ that you are worth her time.