Is she Playin me!?!

[slickaz]

Ok so theres this girl that is a good friend of some of my boys.
shes half english half spanish and is very beautiful, HB8, Easy..9s is Megan Fox/adriana lima etc and i dont give 10s.

so anyway straight away i got game face on because i know she slots guys into friend zone fairly quickly. i didnt do the usual thing like the other guys that give her attention like crazy and get shy and stupid when shes around..i didnt give her much attention at the start..anyway eventually she started hanging around me to see why i wasnt really being like any other guy with her..
so one point we were together alone at a balcony and we started talkin...she said shes seen me DJing <mixing> at a hip hop club and thought i was good..i said thank you..anyway i used the advice here, handed my phone over and said "put your number in..and take mine"..and she should hit me up when shes goin clubbin to that specific club so if im there id holla back.."..i dunno if that was right but i wanted it to sound like..yeh ur not really that interesting for me to call you..so the balls in your court if you wanna come by holla at me..

anyway she did call me in 3 days time..fluff talk..to avoid being put into the LJBF zone, on the phone.."i gotta get back to this meeting at work..im free tomorow night from 7, lets go grab dinner and a game of pool, ill pick you up at 8?"...i was hoping the surprise and clearly set times would convey her true feelings of yes or no!..she said YES!.
so we went on the date. no kiss close..but amazing date! i liked being with this chic, she was deep, fun, talked sense and played pool really well..
anyway ending it, she said we gotta do this again..call me.and handed me here business card..i said ok..

anyway 3rd date..4th date, she organizes a tour of just me and her on a local island, she organized cycles and a picnic lunch, i was taken back..i mean that was brilliant..kiss close and long passionate window steaming hook up..i didnt wanna tap it..not yet..slow and steady right?


THE PROBLEM:
5th date, we're out at the golf course at night im teaching her how to swing and she drops this
S: Hey so listen i wanna talk to you about something
M: aww crap! are we already at that stage yet?! lol..jk what up?
S: im serious..i know you know my intentions for us. and i think you have the same intentions for us
M: ok? if by that you mean getting to know you better..intimately!..yes
S: Stop playin..but i think you should know..my ex called me theo ther day.
M: Ok..thats cool with me, your past is your past..my ex called me too the other day..no biggie.
S: <smtna long the lines of>.. i realised i still have feelings for him, hes a slob, doesnt have a job, lives of the benefit and his parents, hes unattractive, needy and bad in bed..and yet i dunno why i still feel this way.you are exactly the opposite and everything i want in a guy but us going out is not gonna happen..

M: <Mad as fuk! but not showing it>..so umm..what are we doing here? the hook ups, the island trip, i mean if all you wanted is a dude to fvk around with, you shoulda just told me, woulda saved us alota time and effort, not to mention $!..
S: are you jokin?! i mean i really like you..but i dunno what to do with my ex.
M: lol..ok dont worry about it its cool, clearin it up, we here as friends now? right?
S: No but i still wanna date you..and i love kissin you..

anyway i stiopped calling her since then, but she calls me and emails at work ALL THE TIME!...since then shes come by to cook dinner for me and my crew, she even brought the ingredients and dvds, she still does ALOT! of kino and i mean alot!..and i dunno what the hells going on coz it seems she wants in, she texts me when we're sitting in the same room with other ppl..like "hi"..id laugh text back like"?", she - "u look hot.."..i mean this is giving me signals she wants in..
I am not the kind of guy that would tap a girl thats got it for another guy..coz i wouldnt want that hapennin to me..but DAMN! she is one FINE lookin woman and im givin in to her games..i do have other plates up..but this one was really the one i wanted for along time..

what do i do?
what did i do wrong?
should i give in if all she wants is sex?
should i be straight up with her and tell her i wanna get to kno her better?
work towards making her my girl?

help!

 

[slaog]

anyway i stiopped calling her since then, but she calls me and emails at work ALL THE TIME!...since then shes come by to cook dinner for me and my crew, she even brought the ingredients and dvds, she still does ALOT! of kino and i mean alot!..and i dunno what the hells going on coz it seems she wants in, she texts me when we're sitting in the same room with other ppl..like "hi"..id laugh text back like"?", she - "u look hot.."..i mean this is giving me signals she wants in..
I am not the kind of guy that would tap a girl thats got it for another guy..coz i wouldnt want that hapennin to me..but DAMN! she is one FINE lookin woman and im givin in to her games..i do have other plates up..but this one was really the one i wanted for along time..

what do i do?
what did i do wrong?
should i give in if all she wants is sex?
should i be straight up with her and tell her i wanna get to kno her better?
work towards making her my girl?

help!

Don't overthink things.

She likes you and it is possible to like 2 people at once.

Interesting she mentioned her ex when she did. It might have been a test to see how you'd react and looks like you done well. She might have mentioned him to get you to move things along faster or maybe she mentioned him because she was confused what she was feeling. Who knows.

She is doing alot of good things for you and calls you etc. Actions speak louder than words.

 

[horaholic]

You MIGHT be able to get her emotionally attached to you if you sex her, if that's what you're looking for. You might be able to make her forget about her ex. Then again, you might not. Personally, I would go for it and see what happens. You're definately playing a good game, though. I'd keep it up.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Well she likes you but, still has feelings for her ex. As from what she described her ex as. I'm suprised she still likes him... Have you been fvcking this girl or just going on dates? If you ain't fvcking her by now, I might just start looking for someone else. Or start eselating quickly!!!

As for the ex and you. Well she will have to make a decision her self. Either show her you are the better guy or cut her off until she decides.

 

[slickaz]

thanks for the input guys. its monday here and usually she'll email me at work about what she did on the weekend.

PS: i forgot to mention, her best friend loves me <in a friendly way> she hits me up all the time too but shes in the LJBF box, because shes into my flatmate who is also my bestfriend. thats a good thing right? if a womans bst friend likes you, you're in!.lol.

anyway ive noticed she TOTALLY avoids talkin about the ex when we're together or in a group and im there. she wont answer or will tac and run..

her best friend told me she finally got rid of him and doesnt think about him that way anymore..but im not seeing her come to me and talk about.

although you must know this has developed just over the past 2 days, so i presume she may talk when we are face to face...when she does..what do i say? i mean i like her and i DO NOT! want to be the rebound guy, anyway you guys know how to convey this?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

She was definitely testing you when she mentioned the ex @ the golf course. Remember she is use to guys chumping it over her looks, complimenting her etc. You peaked her interest by not kissing her @ss, you have to stay consistent with your behavior.

Don't ask her about her ex when you see her next, that shows weakness and she will start to know she has you by the ballz.

Also NEWSFLASH!!!! Women become emotionally invested when they have sex with a guy they like, that is the ultimate "action" that shows you have won them over. The fact that you mentioned you "didn't want to tap it yet" is very concerning and shows an inner AFC that will eventually reap its ugly face.

I'm not saying you have to fuvk her tomorrow, but if you guys are not progressing physically, its not a good sign.

I also smell a bit of attention w-horeness from this girl, so be on the look out for that.

In the meantime focus on the other chicks you've got lined up.




PIMP

 

[slickaz]

Thanks bru appreciate your input...

the reason i havent tapped it yet is coz i wasnt sure what to do when she dropped that topic on me..i thought ok, we're not planning an LTR, we may be working towards it but nothing spoken yet..and suddenly she talkin about another dude.lol..

so i thought ok, maybe i should give her space to realise im not just another dude thats out to tap it n gap it...

i kno she's into me, and the issue is i wanna make sure shes not gonna be this undecisive once we go past the s3x stage, coz i know women lock you down after s3x..and i was thinkin i dont want to be locked into something thats difficult to get out if she turns crazy..lol

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Thanks bru appreciate your input...

the reason i havent tapped it yet is coz i wasnt sure what to do when she dropped that topic on me..i thought ok, we're not planning an LTR, we may be working towards it but nothing spoken yet..and suddenly she talkin about another dude.lol..

Your mindset needs a complete frame shift. When you meet a girl, the first thing that draws you in is her looks, that's just how guys are hard-wired to think. Early on your ONLY goal should be to fuvk her. Once you've fuvked her, everything naturally progresses from there. When you get emotional over a girl, before you get physical your setting yourself up for one-itis.

so i thought ok, maybe i should give her space to realise im not just another dude thats out to tap it n gap it...

Here's how seduction/attraction works bro: you bring her in, push her away, onlly to pull her back in. When you do this correctly, she will want to fuvk you in the worst way. A girl knows right away whether she wants to fuvk a guy or not. However many of these guys that have a chance to fuvk these girls have NO IDEA how to progress physically. If you don't capitalize when the iron is hot, your going to be left out in the cold.

Furthermore, you've already shown her your not like the rest of the guys, she likes you, she's constantly showing you that. This is where you take care of business.

i kno she's into me, and the issue is i wanna make sure shes not gonna be this undecisive once we go past the s3x stage, coz i know women lock you down after s3x..and i was thinkin i dont want to be locked into something thats difficult to get out if she turns crazy..lol

Why are you thinking ahead? Live in the moment, don't worry about tomorrow or next week when your living today. I'm telling you right now, with your current mindset you are in deep danger of catching a bad case of one-itis. The fact that you have other plates might not matter here because you are clearly spending all your time and energy on this one girl.[/B

PIMP

 

[slaog]

Also NEWSFLASH!!!! Women become emotionally invested when they have sex with a guy they like, that is the ultimate "action" that shows you have won them over. The fact that you mentioned you "didn't want to tap it yet" is very concerning and shows an inner AFC that will eventually reap its ugly face.

I'm not saying you have to fuvk her tomorrow, but if you guys are not progressing physically, its not a good sign.

I disagree, women sometimes hold back sex if they see men as long term relationship potential. They want to make a good impression and not rush things.

It's not AFC to not want sex. If the OP shows that he likes sex but can control his desires then that would look good for him and the girl would know he isn't easily controlled like those AFC's who are desperate to jump into bed.