Is she plating around?

[SHChamp]

It was getting really close with one of my plates, everytime we were together it was kissing, touching and dry fvcking, last time she said she wanted me to sleepover, she said this twice. Today, I wanted to confirm if everything is still on and I get this..

Me: let's have a sleepover at yours tomorrow.
Me: if you take care of food I'll take care of the wine and entertainment.
Her: euhm
Her: don't t really think it's a good idea. I really like you as a person, and I want to hang out with you, chill etc. But we shouldn't take it serious
Her: and I don't want to destroy anything
Her: I love it how it is right now.
Me: I don't do complicated and I don't do things halfway. Let's just be classmates.
Her: that's what I mean


My instinct tells me that she has a few options, ****ing around with other dudes and want to keep me as an option. I generally am successful and my career is going great, she knows and probably wants to string me along in exchange for cookie crumbs. I think she is a grade A Ho and it made it clear to me that I should drop her and continue with other plates instead of succumbing to her ****etry mind games.

P.S: It was a typo, but 'she is plating around' is totally great way of describing these types. xD

 

[El Payaso]

Simple. No contact and definitely NO response.

 

[stevo]

You should have created the thread before your last response.

Dry fcuking, what's that? dry humping? or raw fcuking?

You sounded like you were looking for a girlfriend.

Anyways, be cordial when you see her. No catching up, no initiating chatter.

If she hits you up again, invite her over, no talking about what happened in the past just bend her over somewhere.

 

[SHChamp]

You should have created the thread before your last response.

Dry fcuking, what's that? dry humping? or raw fcuking?

You sounded like you were looking for a girlfriend.

Anyways, be cordial when you see her. No catching up, no initiating chatter.

If she hits you up again, invite her over, no talking about what happened in the past just bend her over somewhere.

Yes, I was looking for a LTR which was my mistake in the first place. I realized recently that I should instead just always aim for sex, and whatever comes naturally if she's worth it. Instead all this time I put sex on second place, which was a huge mistake as I've learned the hard way.

Was my response wrong? She's been playing games for a while and wanted to keep me around as a backup option. I felt I had to make clear to her that I'm not interested and that I'm done and moving on, she's in my class and I am forced to work with her from time to time so I can't initiate NC.

Dry fvcking as in, her bra ripped off, my hands on her tits everywhere else on her body in her bed, but she refused to go further than that which shows me that she's trying to use sex, or the allure of sex to string me along for a while.

If my thought process or reaction to her is wrong, please, be brutally honest.

 

[GS750]

Pffffft. She's jerking you around. Cut her off

 

[BrainDamage92]

Ohhh... She wants to have a sleepover but then she doesnt?

I like this, Ive had this recently, this girl wants me soooo bad, and is playing higher value than she is, but I can see through the BS. SHe recently got GOOD looks and is now showering with the attention. But shes insecure as phuck on the inside. And Im damn sure I look hotter to females than she looks to males ofc relatively.

Claiming: "You never had a chance (***** please). Well, there was this moment, do you know when it was?" (I know damn well when it was but I wouldnt have sex at work, I learnt this the hard way.)

I ****ing hate this ****. Thinking she is smarter than me. I replied: "No, and it doesnt really interest me."

I ****ing hate this **** man. Never talked to her again, and guess who called today? Didnt pick it up. I want this ho to fry. Oh and did I mention - I ****ing hate this **** man. Srsly I fuking hate females, but I cant help it - I want them and this **** is the burden we must live with.

 

[stevo]

Yes, I was looking for a LTR which was my mistake in the first place. I realized recently that I should instead just always aim for sex, and whatever comes naturally if she's worth it. Instead all this time I put sex on second place, which was a huge mistake as I've learned the hard way.

Was my response wrong? She's been playing games for a while and wanted to keep me around as a backup option. I felt I had to make clear to her that I'm not interested and that I'm done and moving on, she's in my class and I am forced to work with her from time to time so I can't initiate NC.

Dry fvcking as in, her bra ripped off, my hands on her tits everywhere else on her body in her bed, but she refused to go further than that which shows me that she's trying to use sex, or the allure of sex to string me along for a while.

If my thought process or reaction to her is wrong, please, be brutally honest.

If a girl's bra comes off she most likely wants to fcuk. That doesnt mean you would not encounter last minute resistance.

With the little information you provided, this is my diagnosis.


You put in more than she does:
You initiated contact (that's her job), You offered a meet up and offered another request before she even responded to the first message. You double texted (that's a sin)


You missed out a chance to fcuk her. (lost your shot, strike while hot)

Did you finger her? Did you put her hand on your dcik? Did you go down on her? or did you just play with her tits? (playing with her tits and not fcuking her is not cool)


Your response was wrong because you shut the door closed and that would limit her coming back. The best response would have been no response.


She wasnt playing games, she was just being a girl.


It's ok for her to have other options as it is ok for you to have other options. You are not there to save her, get your nut and keep it moving.


Do not initiate further convo. Reciprocate her reaction when you see in person. Life goes on.

 

[SHChamp]

If a girl's bra comes off she most likely wants to fcuk. That doesnt mean you would not encounter last minute resistance.

With the little information you provided, this is my diagnosis.


You put in more than she does:
You initiated contact (that's her job), You offered a meet up and offered another request before she even responded to the first message. You double texted (that's a sin)
She initiated the actual meet up in the first place, twice. I simply initiated the day before to make sure the plans are still on, otherwise I would plan something else and not assume it's fine and get flaked last minute.

You missed out a chance to fcuk her. (lost your shot, strike while hot)

Did you finger her? Did you put her hand on your dcik? Did you go down on her? or did you just play with her tits? (playing with her tits and not fcuking her is not cool)
I was playing with her tits bare, kissing and every time I tried to unbutton her pants she stopped it. This continuing on for an hour while doing everything else and then her saying she wants to sleep.

Your response was wrong because you shut the door closed and that would limit her coming back. The best response would have been no response.
The reason she kept on these games was because I gave her enough freedom to do them. I stopped that shot because my time is more valuable and I'd rather invest it in myself or a girl that actually has enough potential and interest in me to stop or at least minimize the amount of games. She's not of higher value than me, and I have no interest of investing another minute to try and get in her pants or more because I already invested enough.


She wasnt playing games, she was just being a girl.
This statement was probably made because of my lack of information, but after carefully analyzing my past experiences with her, she benefited of me greatly, in terms of social network, studies, career. Because of me, I convinced her to continue on with her studies instead of quitting, and she openly admires me with other people. She was getting more out of me, than me of her. The moment I wanted more, in this case sex, she backed off because it would be too much investment from her.

It's ok for her to have other options as it is ok for you to have other options. You are not there to save her, get your nut and keep it moving.
I agree.

Do not initiate further convo. Reciprocate her reaction when you see in person. Life goes on.

Precisely.

 

[Yewki]

last time she said she wanted me to sleepover, she said this twice

Her: don't t really think it's a good idea. I really like you as a person, and I want to hang out with you, chill etc. But we shouldn't take it serious
Her: and I don't want to destroy anything
Her: I love it how it is right now.

Translation: I'm liking some other guy better at the moment, but please keep giving me attention and feeding my ego.

Gotta love it.

Also I'd say your last response was great. Not responding at all, or responding with something obviously contrived like "k", comes across as butt hurt. Your response was real and shut her down.