is she mental or faking?

[ReD MaFiA]

Ok guys heres the fvcked situation i found myself in: i ask this girl out, she says yes and we talk a few minutes about the plans for the date which was 2 days away. Now she's my co-worker(i know, i know) so i see her every day, but i did not mention anything about it the next day, then the day when we were supposed to go on a date i said something about remembering what we talked about..and get this, she tells me she doesnt have a clue what i mean.(not just busting my balls either, completely serious)

I had to make sure she wasnt joking, so i asked again if she really doesnt remember what we talked about 2 days ago. she said she had a lot of stuff going on and cant remember anything. i ended up just saying "if you cant remember then forget about it"

its not like forgetting that someone asks you for a piece of gum...i never knew a single person my entire life who would forget someone asking them out 2 days later...anyone got an idea what might be going on here? does she have a few screws loose or is she faking, and if so why?

 

[sprint]

Yeah well it sounds like you don't mean much to her at all. Just next her. See you asked a coworker out. Now, that's not all bad but you chose a girl you see EVERY day. That's bad. If she's a coworker at least get a girl you don't see that often.

But yeah she's lying. There's most likely no way she forgot. I guess it's possible she wasn't even listening to you, but who knows. Anyway I'm actually surprised that a girl would do this. They're usually more polite when they flake or reject a guy. I guess you must have done something in those two days that turned her off.

 

[drak_ool]

of course, it all depends on the wording of your demand 2 days ago, and whether she actually agreed or whether you only thought she did.

But if you are sure you had set something up, and she just disrespects you like this, then by all means forget about this girl. In the end she did you a favor, because getting involved with a co-worker that you have to see everyday can lead to some messed up situations

 

[ReD MaFiA]

The thing is i knew this girl for about a year,but i was in a relationship at that time, and we always talk and laugh about random stuff and she does flirt with me quite a lot. We only hung out outside of work once or twice, and even that was with other co-workers as a group. i never tried to make any passes before this.
What sense does it make to say yes to a date and then pretend not to remember, wouldnt it be easier and less fuss just to say no right away?

And i know dating co-workers is bad idea, but i acted compulsively that day, we all do dumb things once a while.

 

[Aragon034]

When i read teh title of this thread, i couldn't help but think of Charlise Theron's guest role on Arrested Development.

"We're going to have... SEXUAL relations..." and then pulls out a cricket bat.

"Oh that's good we'll come up with a nice safety word and have alot of fun!"

:crackup:

Sounds like she just doesn't pay any attention to you. See what she does after the night of the date goes by, if nothing positive happens, Next.

 

[kingman]

Next that *****, she has no respect for you......

 

[OneEyedJack]

Sounds like she is doing both of you a favor.

 

[Jitterbug]

It's called pre-emptive flaking. Happens when your act of asking her out was pretty weak.

 

[hell695]

so either shes a dumb ***** and forgot or shes a dumb ***** and dont care

 

[Love]

I want whatever she smoked

Or let me rephrase that, I wouldn't ask a girl if she remembered I asked her out.