Okay so here's the deal. Me and this girl had arranged to meet up at the movies tonight. We made plans for this on Wedensday Night for this. Last night me a her arragned everything for the date. So The movie started at 7:25 pm. I called her at 5:00pm to give her the start time for the movie. So then she tells me she can't go because she's at her friends house and her friend's bf couldn't make and her didn't wanted her friend to be the "3rd Wheel". She said that she was "soooooooo SOOOORRRRRRRRRY" Funny thing about this is that she didn't even tell that she was settin up a double date in the first place and if this was so sudden, why didn't she tell me (remember I had to call her). I mean if she knew she wasn't going, why didn't she call ahead of time? Idk, this stoy sounds kinda of fishy to me. Is she lying or I'm I just being paranoid?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Is she lying?
- Thread starter rkc09
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
cmon man .. Stop over analyzing
She couldnt make it , ok . Give her another chance , if she cant make it again just next her .
I think u can notice if that girl is interested on you !! If she's not next her immediately . Dont loose time on her .
She couldnt make it , ok . Give her another chance , if she cant make it again just next her .
I think u can notice if that girl is interested on you !! If she's not next her immediately . Dont loose time on her .
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
drmeathead
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dude she was lying. girls flake. it is bull****. they think they can. sorry to coarse but she probably found something, in her mind, better to do. you should to. find another girl.
if you see her out it is really simple. say "hi nice to see you. you look good." if she asks how you are say "well." then tell her "listen i gotta go" and roll.
if you see her out it is really simple. say "hi nice to see you. you look good." if she asks how you are say "well." then tell her "listen i gotta go" and roll.
WC2
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It could be a lie.drmeathead said:
Don't talk too much offense, MOST girls flake when they first meet you. Unless she is totally infatuated with you physically and mentally right off the bat, she will flake just because she is afraid to commit too much too early.
Next time this happens, remember it's a test. Take it in stride and tell her you have some things to do anyways and you'll talk to her later.
i'd say what daddy the pimp said too; give her another chance, choose another place too, go for a drink in the afternoon. o and dont make OVERcalls, call her just once,arrange this date in one call, if she accepts, lets hope she doesnt cancel it, if she refuses... well in cases of refusion or canceling next her. otherwise u should see her and enjoy ur time.
let us know what happens with u
let us know what happens with u
ive actually did this the other way around like i would cancel off the date to see if after me even canceling if she would sitll be there to hang out the next week, so most likley its a test if you arrange plan for next week or w/e and she cancels again then find another girl plus just by posting this you seem like you getting just a lil too attached to a girl you don't even date. But just try to find another day to hang out don't bug the **** out of her about it she will loose intrest fast and if she doesn't show up again then move on.
drmeathead
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are you guys kidding...1) this girl backed out on the date. 2) she didnt have the class to call and say so. 3) she made up some bull**** reason not to go.
number one is bad enough but if done with class and respect for a legitimate reason can be over looked.
number two is worse. what if the guy showed up to pick her up or met her out. then he would have found out the hard way she wasnt coming. in a sense he is lucky took the weak confidence route and called to confirm his date the day of. why didnt she call? she doesnt respect him or is so self centered she didnt care.
number three. she lied. it is a deal breaker. no integrity. if she lies about this what else will she lie about?
it is up to you dude. call her again but she doesnt respect you. if she did she would have called to cancel.
number three is a deal
number one is bad enough but if done with class and respect for a legitimate reason can be over looked.
number two is worse. what if the guy showed up to pick her up or met her out. then he would have found out the hard way she wasnt coming. in a sense he is lucky took the weak confidence route and called to confirm his date the day of. why didnt she call? she doesnt respect him or is so self centered she didnt care.
number three. she lied. it is a deal breaker. no integrity. if she lies about this what else will she lie about?
it is up to you dude. call her again but she doesnt respect you. if she did she would have called to cancel.
number three is a deal
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
I wouldn't talk to her again until she called you.
i would agree with ya about the class thing drmeathead but its high school most girls won't call unless there head over hills about ya in the first place, it's not so much about class more than about 80% to 85% of the girls in high school don't have the balls to even call the guy, and as far as letting the guy know ahead of time well thats all about being mature and no offense but most girls and most people in school are not mature enough to call someone they made a date with and tell them ahead of time that they can't do it. But, now after thinking about it i do agree that this girl isn't worth even giving a second try because she did cancel out on you, and even if shes testing you she did lie, and unless your just looking for a **** buddy then i wouldn't be down with dating any kind of lier. I mean if you do date her what will she lie about when your dating if she lied to you on the first date? So next this girl shes not worth your time, because you don't need liers and girls that like to play games before even going on the first date.
