"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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is she lying just to save face?

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i had a 1st and 2nd dates with this chick from Facebook and i kinda flopped on the 2nd date cos i felt under pressure and nervous.

anyway i found out from someone else that she told him she had a boyfriend and changed her status from single to just 'looking for friendship'

i called her over the weekend and this chick never replies to me, when im out with her she's surgically attached to her phone so i know she just ignores my calls but i just seem to refuse to take a non-verbal hint.. (i know it seems narcisstic and border line arrogant but i can't accept that she's not interested in me.. like the concept is foreign, i know she's physically attracted to me but i can't stop pursuing it)

anyway i sent her a text today saying 'i think u have a bf and have been leading me on all this time.. im not angry it just exlpains a few things about your bad behaviour and why u won't let me kiss u. we'll talk again when you're single again ;) and hopefully i might still be available and interested tho i cant guarantee it. take care. '

she responded with 'i dont. take care.'

i think she's lying.. would she just lie to save face? just to make it seem i got it all wrong.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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pete101 said:
i had a 1st and 2nd dates with this chick from Facebook and i kinda flopped on the 2nd date cos i felt under pressure and nervous.

anyway i found out from someone else that she told him she had a boyfriend and changed her status from single to just 'looking for friendship'
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If she changes her status like that, it doesn't necessarily mean that she is in a relationship.
pete101 said:
i called her over the weekend and this chick never replies to me, when im out with her she's surgically attached to her phone so i know she just ignores my calls but i just seem to refuse to take a non-verbal hint.. (i know it seems narcisstic and border line arrogant but i can't accept that she's not interested in me.. like the concept is foreign, i know she's physically attracted to me but i can't stop pursuing it)
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If she's not interested in you, then you should drop the set. Why waste your time on her? There's a hundred other girls you could be talking to.
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anyway i sent her a text today saying 'i think u have a bf and have been leading me on all this time.. im not angry it just exlpains a few things about your bad behaviour and why u won't let me kiss u. we'll talk again when you're single again ;) and hopefully i might still be available and interested tho i cant guarantee it. take care. '

she responded with 'i dont. take care.'

i think she's lying.. would she just lie to save face? just to make it seem i got it all wrong.
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I think you shouldn't have asked her about her having a boyfriend in the first place. First of all, she now knows you were looking around at her profile. Also, bringing up her not kissing you was not a good move.

I think she could have been lying. But who cares if she has a boyfriend, if it's a big issue she will bring it up.
 
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she's losing interest in you or has lost a considerable amount based on your 2nd date I'm assuming. Her concise response is not a good sign. Whether or not she has a boyfriend is irrelevant. although the fact that she felt the need to tell you she isn't in a relationship does muddle things up a bit. You played your cards poorly with that text. You attempted to show that you are not going to wait around and insinutated that you are sought after by stating you might not be single. If you reinitiate conversation now, you are negating everything you said beforehand...
 
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i just said that i might be still interested later on when she becomes single on the assumption she had a bf..

bear in mind she told someone else on facebook she had a boyfriend then changed her status from single to just friendship.

that person then told me so i never brought it up.. i reckon she's just saving face cos she knows she was leading me on trying to spin me with her current bf and is telling me she didn't cos she doesn't want to look like she's the bad one cos she knows that if she did she shouldn't be seeing me?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i seem to be so narcissitic and arrogant that i can't accept she wasn't into me.. i know she found me physically attractive so to me it equates in my mind it should not equal a failure although i did f up..

i know that when a girl isn't physically attracted to me i'm more accepting that it isn't going to work but i'm a little miffed that physical attraction isn't enough to make up for some of my afc mistakes with her.. like i would have thought i'd have more scope for error..

i'm just p1ssed that she acted like a spoilt little child and threw a tantrum when i questioned why she didn't get back to me on such and such day before our 2nd date..
 
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If she's lying or not , is not a problem anymore .

NEXT THE B1TCH .

She sent you a 4 word message , said TAKE CARE . You dont know if she said I DONT about having a boyfriend of having interest on you because you were talking about that before on message .

You're not arrogant you nice .
Dont think of her again . NEXT HER
 
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give it up and find a woman who likes you. Ever see those couples out there where the woman is like smothering her man with affection? that's what you want and if this gal isn't doing that move on.
 
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