Is she losing interest? Time for a break?

[aussiegoat55]

Hey guys,

It's been a looonnggg time since I've been back to sosuave because I have been in a great relationship with a beautiful girl, but as of recent it's taking a turn.

I met this girl in college and we've been going out for about 2 years (come Jan. 27). 7 months into the relationship I needed to transfer colleges because of $$ issues and so most of the relationship has been long distance with us talking on Skype and seeing each other over breaks.

This past semester she was in Italy and I in Vietnam. We didn't talk much because communication was harder and I told her I felt distant from her. She interpreted this as me wanting to break-up so she put up a wall and her feelings have changed. There are a bunch of small signs she's losing interest and just generally offensive things she is doing.

One day I was able to snoop her facebook profile, I don't have facebook and so I don't know what's going on in her other world. So when it comes to her facebook it says she's single, interested in men, has posted only 4-6 photos of us ever, I'm not in one of any of her profile pics, and when a mutal friend of ours asked her on fb what she did this summer, she said, worked at her house and did projects for other people when she spent 2 months living with me down in California.

I don't mean to drag on but one last thing. I dated her on the premise she was a non-drinker, and when she went to Italy, guess what? ...She drank! And there are several pictures of her on fb drinking. And there is a picture of her with a guys arm around her and her arm around his. She gets along better with guys, some of her guy friends have had crushes on her for years.

The months we've had up until now have been great, there are a lot of admirable qualities she has. But since our lack of communication when we were abroad she has been the one to be distant.

Any advice guys? Our two year anniversary is Jan 27, should I say we're taking a break before this date or after? Should I still get her an anniversary gift, I thought a dozen roses for about $50. She'll probably not get me anything.

I know from the post it sounds obvious, "Dump that b*tch", but that's almost foolish to throw away a decent relationship. Ok guys, lay it on me, what should I do to give her a wake-up call slap to the face and start make her appreciating more.

Thanks.

-Aussie goat

 

[Jitterbug]

Sorry I don't get it. What part of that relationship is decent?

 

[jophil28]

One day I was able to snoop her facebook profile, I don't have facebook and so I don't know what's going on in her other world. So when it comes to her facebook it says she's single, interested in men, has posted only 4-6 photos of us ever, I'm not in one of any of her profile pics, and when a mutal friend of ours asked her on fb what she did this summer, she said, worked at her house and did projects for other people when she spent 2 months living with me down in California.

-Aussie goat

THis woman is distancing herself from you...her behavior says so.

If I were you I would jump before you get pushed.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Aussie,
This is what happens to long term relationships,like Old Soldiers they simply fade away....save your money don't send flowers,that's buying her friendship,send a nice card by all means,but the emphasis should be on the interesting things you are doing,make yourself attractive....No need for dramatic gestures....Should she return and be available,you can buy the roses then.

 

[jonwon]

Where is the relationship. Seriously i'm not going to beat on your girl, man get out some more and meet a girl you can see on a more regular bases.

What sort of guy settles for puss* once in a blue moon with a girl anyway?

Jesus I have always wondered what the big deal about long distance relationships are when both parties never see each other for months no end, what is the point?

Are you investing in a white picket fence and two point four children. What is the crack with this cra*.

Your girl is doing what you should be doing, enjoying her-self whilst young and exploring her options, seriously take a leaf out of her book.

This is the danger of the brainwashing ingested into young men these days, what the fuc* are you doing? Holding out for some skirt who lives miles away you get to see now and again, now your stalking her online because you lack the know how to increase your 'options'. This is a sign of white knight syndrome, the marriage goal mindset and a whole lot more fuc*ed up concepts infused into western men.

Your girl is whoring it up, in bars and clubs and seeing her regular joe now and again for a mini holiday break, it's about time you did the same. Or at least if your going to go for the marriage goal, meet a girl you can actually date!

Talking to girls over skype isn't relationship stuff, that shi* is torture, women love to talk. Your nothing but her emotional tampon she loves to contact now and again for her ego boost and support, believe me, your value to her is limited. That things you had before you moved away may have been great, but taking it to LD relationship was a killer.

Edit - I also advocate meeting girls with ZERO guy friends and this is a perfect example why! You dont trust her because she has male friends and rightly so! Spare yourself the drama of thinking what if, get yourself a girl who is healthy in the head to have female friends instead of being surrounded by coc* and the worst thing, your girls coc* carosel actually wants to get in her skirt and she knows it. She should have been dumped right there, just for that alone. Does that not tell you, your place on her value list right there? See the wood for the tree's kid.

You keep hold of this one, your going to get burnt.

 

[aussiegoat55]

This is a sign of white knight syndrome, the marriage goal mindset and a whole lot more fuc*ed up concepts infused into western men.

Wow, this was spot on. I'll let you guys know I did date and put moves on other girls here at uni while in my LD relationship so I'm aware of my options.

And I think I'm going to jump ship before I go down with it. Thanks for adding some needed insight. It's hard to see sometimes when your head is clouded with a clusterf*ck of emotions.

 

[SharinganUser]

This past semester she was in Italy and I in Vietnam.

She is in freakn' Italy! You have to be crazy to think that she wasn't getting ****ed every night by an Italian sausage or 3.

And you, you dim wit, you're in Viet Nam! Viet ****ING Nam! You should be out as often as you ***** pwning as much Viet Namese poon tang as you can.

There is a saying among expats in Asia, You don't bring a sandwich to a buffet. However in your case, your sandwich is getting ate out in the Italian restaurant, while you are sitting at the Viet ****ING Namese buffet waiting for your sandwich to show up.


Dump this chick and start banging as many Asian chicks as you can/want.

 

[SchoolBoy]

Trust me Vietnamese ***** is damn good...