Is she looking for a replacement or an orbiter?

[The LadyKiller]

I encountered a situation this weekend that has sparked a debate amongst my friends, as nobody has a definitive answer. You guys might be more knowledgable.

Hit the bar with a few friends over the weekend, and at one point was able to strike up a conversation with a cute HB8. We quickly clicked. It was nice to see a HB who could not only hold a conversation, but actually seem interested/engaged in the discussion. When a few of her friends hopped to a bar down the street, she stayed around.

Now of course there's a catch (there always is) - while sipping on her drink, she mentioned that she has a bf (I could interpret the mumble). However, later on, she asks me out for drinks this week. :yes: Because we both work early hours, it would likely take place during happy hour.

So, is this normal? A HB who I met for the first time and is in a relationship asked me out. I also have no idea if this is a girl who sees me as an option or some sort of orbiter. Barring a flake or some other girl bs, I'll likely follow through on this, but don't want to get manipulated.

 

[Poon King]

Listen.. in 2015 most women always line up a replacement before dumping their current beta fag boyfriend/husband. Just because a woman is in a relationship, that doesn't mean she respects that relationship. Why would you respect it any more than she does? :crackup:

I have smashed so many women with boyfriends its not even funny. None of my business if she has a boyfriend. I have my own life and I really don't give a sh!t about her's outside of my own dealings with her. Don't analyze, just f*ck. At least that's what I do.

I mean honestly.. who cares? If you want to smash her then smash her. If she is a cheater then you know she is only good for sex anyway. Win-win for you because you know not to take her seriously and just enjoy the sex.

 

[KingBeef]

Listen.. in 2015 most women always line up a replacement before dumping their current beta fag boyfriend/husband. Just because a woman is in a relationship, that doesn't mean she respects that relationship. Why would you respect it any more than she does? :crackup:

I have smashed so many women with boyfriends its not even funny. None of my business if she has a boyfriend. I have my own life and I really don't give a sh!t about her's outside of my own dealings with her. Don't analyze, just f*ck. At least that's what I do.

I mean honestly.. who cares? If you want to smash her then smash her. If she is a cheater then you know she is only good for sex anyway. Win-win for you because you know not to take her seriously and just enjoy the sex.

THIS... You won't know for sure until you go out with her and see what her true intentions are but make no mistake about it, the loyalty factor today with women (in general) is just not there. Example, I had a similar situation years ago with a girl who was completely interested in dating me knowing full well that she had a boyfriend (I ultimately declined). One day I overheard a conversation with her and another colleague on how she felt that she was a "serial monogamist" always tree branching from one guy to the other....they always keep their options open and lack loyalty. If she's strictly going to be a plate then that's fine, anything else I just wouldn't trust. Keep that in mind...

 

[GS750]

I agree with PK, the vast majority of girls aren't going to let go of one guy until they have another lined up. They always have a plan B guy in the works. If she's doing all the initiating, not to mention suggesting meetups between the two of you, she's probably setting up a branch swing.

 

[RangerMIke]

Never pay any attention to a woman claiming she has a BF. Never pay any attention to what she says only what she does.... If she says she has a BF yet is still willing to meet up with you what the fvck are you going to believe?

I have hooked up with DOZENS of women who claim when I first met them that they had BFs. In fact I have a date with one next week.

Boyfriends are temporary.... I don't mess with married or engaged chicks, but women with BFs are fair game.

 

[Soolaimon]

Hit the bar with a few friends over the weekend, and at one point was able to strike up a conversation with a cute HB8. We quickly clicked. It was nice to see a HB who could not only hold a conversation, but actually seem interested/engaged in the discussion. When a few of her friends hopped to a bar down the street, she stayed around.

Now of course there's a catch (there always is) - while sipping on her drink, she mentioned that she has a bf

However, later on, she asks me out for drinks this week. :yes: Because we both work early hours, it would likely take place during happy hour.

So, is this normal? A HB who I met for the first time and is in a relationship asked me out. I also have no idea if this is a girl who sees me as an option or some sort of orbiter. Barring a flake or some other girl bs, I'll likely follow through on this, but don't want to get manipulated.

If this girl was a quality girlfriend she wouldn't be sitting in a bar sipping on a drink talking with you asking you out for happy hour drinks.

She would be with the boyfriend she is supposed to be in love with instead.

It doesn't matter if she is "in a relationship". Women will still have sex with other guys when they get bored of the boyfriend or want to get d!ck on the side.

You don't even know how she feels about the boyfriend. She might have a boyfriend but she doesn't respect him. When she doesn't respect him she will cheat on him.

That's why setting "verbal relationship boundaries" before the relationship is useless and a waste of time when she can easily not follow them like in this situation.

She was at the bar to meet new guys and she met you and asked you out.

Girls string orbiters along and make excuses. She asked you out so go out with her.

This girl wouldn't be a good quality GF so don't get mixed up in that.

Bang her as soon as you can and if you get excuses to why she can't drop her fast. That will avoid any manipulation.

She already has a BF and you're not there to be her BF.

You're there to bang her.

And if she doesn't then move on so you don't waste any time.

 

[Bingo-Player]

im agreeing with everyone else

loyalty is an extremely rare commodity in 2015 and VERY few women these days possess it

we now live in a world which is built on instant gratification , if she wants to cheat she will make damn sure she's going to cheat if your in the right place at the right time it may aswell be you

its a dog eat dog world ......and i don't care what anyone says most dudes given the opportunity will take the possy thats so generously offered .........boyfriend or no boyfriend

crack on.....

 

[skinnyguy]

Hope you're not turning this into a oneitis

Looking forward to hearing your report about how you pumped and dumped her...

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Yeah go for it, but don't get attached to her. Quality girls don't do stuff like this, so you can only use her for one thing.

If you stick around long enough, don't be surprised when she does the same thing to you too.

 

[The LadyKiller]

Good stuff. Will surely keep in mind. I had always shied away from girls in relationships, but this opens my eyes a bit.

Unfortunately, it won't happen with this HB, at least not right now. I called (no answer) and then texted her to cement our plans this week - remember, she originally suggested meeting up. She replied within minutes, said she now has to work (most likely is actually true), but perhaps another time and she'll text me (most likely won't happen).

As I suggested above, a girl saying "I'll text/call you" is probably a pipe dream. Not much else I need to do here, I'll go about my life and try to meet more HBs.

 

[VladPatton]

I'm going against the grain here. I think she's looking for an orbiter in her collection. If she gave a sh!t about banging you, she wouldn't of mentioned she has a BF, she would of just asked you out and followed through with cheating. Why would she? She did a preemptive diffusion before she asked you out, to make sure you don't have intentions to try moves on her.

You can really go 2 ways with this, I'm not discrediting the guys above, but this is just my gut instinct. B!tches be crazy, yo.


Keep us posted on this case.