"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is she just a REALLY good tease?

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I'm getting such a mixed signal from this girl, but I'm starting to think she's just a tease or attention *****. We can talk about sex and she sometimes even brings it (or I bring it up) during small text messaging convos. Most of the time though (IN PERSON) if we talk about it and I hint at her and I getting into it she refuses. Still in text messages, she'll act like she would be into it. This is starting to just get to me. When I talk to her in person about this she isn't around anyone so I can't see why she would feel guilt about being judged. It's almost like anytime I escalate things she backs away. So what the hell?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My advice would be to ween yourself off text messaging. I have been there many times, and nothing good ever comes from texting.

You start texting a girl all the time you become her b!tch.

I have started to give up texting, maybe one or 2 every once in awhile.

And I have completely given up instant messenger.

If it's a girl you are already banging maybe it's another story. Anybody agree?
 

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Vlad the Impaler said:
My advice would be to ween yourself off text messaging. I have been there many times, and nothing good ever comes from texting.

You start texting a girl all the time you become her b!tch.

I have started to give up texting, maybe one or 2 every once in awhile.

And I have completely given up instant messenger.

If it's a girl you are already banging maybe it's another story. Anybody agree?
Yeah, Vlad, I agree 100%. Instant messaging and texting is a crutch. Everyone is a tough guy on the internet, and women are no different, they're all AW's on the 'net because it's a faceless means of communication.

I do use it from time to time but that's only until I can be rid of it completely.
 
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Vlad the Impaler said:
My advice would be to ween yourself off text messaging. I have been there many times, and nothing good ever comes from texting.

You start texting a girl all the time you become her b!tch.

I have started to give up texting, maybe one or 2 every once in awhile.

And I have completely given up instant messenger.

If it's a girl you are already banging maybe it's another story. Anybody agree?
That's very true. Text messaging and IM are bad for attracting girls. I just learnt that recently. Plus IM and text messaging, most of the time, is childish and useless. That's why I have blocked almost everyone on MSN.

If I want to talk to a girl I'm attracted to, I'm better off talking to her in person.
 

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challenger her by texting her, "i dont think you can walk the talk" (it is safe to do this because you're not INVOLVING YOURSELF)

if she replies back assuming you want to have sex with her.. say something back like

"don't flatter yourself. i never said i wanted to have sex with you"
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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