"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is she just a REALLY good tease?

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I'm getting such a mixed signal from this girl, but I'm starting to think she's just a tease or attention *****. We can talk about sex and she sometimes even brings it (or I bring it up) during small text messaging convos. Most of the time though (IN PERSON) if we talk about it and I hint at her and I getting into it she refuses. Still in text messages, she'll act like she would be into it. This is starting to just get to me. When I talk to her in person about this she isn't around anyone so I can't see why she would feel guilt about being judged. It's almost like anytime I escalate things she backs away. So what the hell?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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My advice would be to ween yourself off text messaging. I have been there many times, and nothing good ever comes from texting.

You start texting a girl all the time you become her b!tch.

I have started to give up texting, maybe one or 2 every once in awhile.

And I have completely given up instant messenger.

If it's a girl you are already banging maybe it's another story. Anybody agree?
 

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Vlad the Impaler said:
My advice would be to ween yourself off text messaging. I have been there many times, and nothing good ever comes from texting.

You start texting a girl all the time you become her b!tch.

I have started to give up texting, maybe one or 2 every once in awhile.

And I have completely given up instant messenger.

If it's a girl you are already banging maybe it's another story. Anybody agree?
Yeah, Vlad, I agree 100%. Instant messaging and texting is a crutch. Everyone is a tough guy on the internet, and women are no different, they're all AW's on the 'net because it's a faceless means of communication.

I do use it from time to time but that's only until I can be rid of it completely.
 
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Vlad the Impaler said:
My advice would be to ween yourself off text messaging. I have been there many times, and nothing good ever comes from texting.

You start texting a girl all the time you become her b!tch.

I have started to give up texting, maybe one or 2 every once in awhile.

And I have completely given up instant messenger.

If it's a girl you are already banging maybe it's another story. Anybody agree?
That's very true. Text messaging and IM are bad for attracting girls. I just learnt that recently. Plus IM and text messaging, most of the time, is childish and useless. That's why I have blocked almost everyone on MSN.

If I want to talk to a girl I'm attracted to, I'm better off talking to her in person.
 

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challenger her by texting her, "i dont think you can walk the talk" (it is safe to do this because you're not INVOLVING YOURSELF)

if she replies back assuming you want to have sex with her.. say something back like

"don't flatter yourself. i never said i wanted to have sex with you"
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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