"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Is she interested in me or what?

No Leaf Clover

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Talked with this girl a few times, was a little tispy the first few calls and apparently p!ssed her off getting into her personal life with questions. So I waited 2 weeks, called and she didn't answer. Then last night I called her again and she answered. I said "hey how's it going. haven't talked to you in a while." she was like "I have no reason to talk to you after what you said to me, invading my privacy." I told her my bad, I had a few too much to drink, I was just kidding. And you're right I was over the line. lol she said "I know I'm right."

I think she was drunk last night too by the way she sounded. I said "Why did you give me your number then?" To which she hesitated and said "I was trashed."... so I came back with "Well since this is probably the last time we'll be talking I didn't mean to upset you, it's unfortunate we have to leave on a bad note like this. take it easy. Then we hung up.

2 minutes later she calls me back and says something like "Why should I continue talking to you? You got 10 seconds." I don't really remember what was said. but I know some douche was in the backround, he said "let me talk to him". Then I said "who is that guy?" She said It's none of your business. I'm around my friends. People who care for me." I think I said "oh ok, cool." Something like that.

Thoughts?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Igetit!

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In one word: YES.

I do believe she's interested in you. And I bet you have no idea of what you did to cause it,do you? But that's a different story. Anyway,what makes me think that she was interested was the fact that she immediately called you back after the initial phone call you made. If she weren't interested at all,when you said that you hated for things to end on a bad note,then hung up the phone,she wouldn't have called you back. Another thing that you probably didn't noticed was when she said to you,"Why should I continue talking to you?". That was a retorical question. I mean,what did she expect you to say? Think about it for a second. I believe that she was interested/attracted to you,but because she was "offended" at you,she needed a reason to justify continuing talking to you.

So once again,do I think she's interested? YES.
 

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id have to disagree with you ^. just because she called back does not mean shes interested. maybe this girl cares more about what people think of her?
 
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No Leaf Clover said:
I said "Why did you give me your number then?"
LOL... she gave you her number AFTER you did all that?

She hesitated to answer because she's obviously interested in you. I would agree with Igetit.

Now how to persue this, I don't know. I'd be curious to hear some opinions.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DJVladdy

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Igetit!!! is a great example of keyboard jockey. Before you start arguing at least be honest with yourself.

Now, to the original poster, the answer to your question is a resounding "HELL NO". The bytch has zero respect for you. Is that too difficult to understand? You cannot have interest or attraction or anything without basic respect first. This is social dynamics WITHOUT having to read "real social dynamics" and other nerdery.
 

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I'd say no, but she's acting awfully wishy-washy about it...even so, still a no. (hey, that rhymed.)
 

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She might be into you, but it doesn't matter. The problem is there's really no way to persue this. I mean, what are you gonna do, call her and ask if she wants to catch a movie sometime like nothing happened? lol
 

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No that's not the problem.
The real problem is, snowboy, that you wack off to JFK's pictures.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Igetit!

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What's up with all these NOs? When a woman doesn't like you,she avoids you,gives you excuse after excuse not to talk to you or be in your presence.
If she doesn't like you,she's not going to call you on the phone,then ask you why she should continue talking to you. What kind of sense does that make? If you don't like a girl,are you going to call her and ask her why you should keep talking to her? Of course not. If you don't like her,you're going to avoid her,and not take her phone calls. At least that's what I do.
 

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DJVladdy said:
No that's not the problem.
The real problem is, snowboy, that you wack off to JFK's pictures.

What's with all the anger Vlad? First you call Igetit a KBJ for no reason and now knock on snows obsession over JFK (ok well that is understandable).
 

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BTW - If his hair resembles JFK Jr's, that's probably what sparked her interest.
 

Igetit!

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Yeah,I noticed that he called me a KBJ,but I didn't respond. I don't waste my posts on foolishness.
 

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DJVladdy said:
No that's not the problem.
The real problem is, snowboy, that you wack off to JFK's pictures.
LMAO that was gold made me laugh so hard:crackup:


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Answer is no, she is not interested.

The real questions is this, why do you think she is interested?

Answer again is doesn't matter what you think, answer is NO she isn't interested.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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slickaz

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i agree with iGetit. girls are very tactful..
she didnt take long enough (2 hours or more) to call you back within which she couldve called her friends for advice or thought about how to screw with ur mind..
she called you back in 2, which means one of two things:

1. she is, again, too trashed to realise what she's doing and letting her ovaries and need for dik to control her mind..hence the immediate call asking you to justify and prove yourself to her..

2. she really is interested, was not drunk, and is actually trying to show you that you did piss her off abit but she'll over look the fact if you just talk nicely.

if 1, then its not worth pursuing, and she would still hate you tomoro morning.

if 2, then i bet you it wouldnt have mattered what you wouldve said, as long as it was smtn funny, she wouldve laughed and continued talking to you...

at this point looking forward, assuming you hung up after the dude behind her said what he did....

if you want to work on her, call her up one night soon and see whats up.just act natural..see how her tone is and what she says..drop some jokes if her tone and attitude is ok..

if not..leave it..dont call back..and move on.

either way..if i was you..id get her..tap her...and tell her this is why you should talk to me while she's screaming ur name..finish up and walk out of her life..
 

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:crackup:

I don't know why do you bother, and another thing I don't know, is how can you take this disrespect. This girl seems like NO FUN AT ALL. She brings you down. And you're wondering if she is interrested... All I can say is man... What's up with that!

Just walk away. You're the prize, not her.
 

brian123

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Even if she is into you, she sounds like alot of drama (see what you've already gone through)

Stop wasting your time and start focusing on drama free girls
 

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Hmmm I would have to say probably not, although it's completly possible. She DID call you back afterall.

HOWEVER! Weather she likes you or not, I wouldn't mess with her. She gives me a bonified crazy vibe, maybe more of a dissrespectful vibe...i don't know.

BUT HEY! It's you're game, play it how you want :)

No that's not the problem.
The real problem is, snowboy, that you wack off to JFK's pictures.
:crackup: :crackup: LMAO:crackup: :crackup: ....but seriously, enough with the hostilities boys.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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