"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is she gaining interest again or just attention seeking/playing games?

bdbee

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We've been on a date (she admit it was a date) and a couple of hang-outs

She blew me off once saying she had promised a friend she would hang out with him that week, but then she still kept trying to get my attention when I ignored her by doing the following:

Always finding her way into whatever conversation I was in.
Always answering my directions indirectly - i. e. pretending to be talking to the other person but answering my question.
Always being in my proximity.
Constantly staring at me, or engaging in prolonged eye contact.

Asked her out again and she asked for a 2 month raincheck due to her masters project which determined if she got into a prestigious academic program, so I left it in her court.

Months later she saw me and she's doing the following:
Initiating conversation with me when she sees me.
Always in my proximity - I've been tried moving to different spots in the room, and she'll simply follow me there. If I was standing in a spot earlier and I leave the room, when I come back she'll be there talking to those people.
Preventing other girls from being in my proximity by taking their seat right before they sit down, etc (pretty aggressively as well, she almost injured the other girl when she prevented her from sitting next to me which got her some dirty looks from all the people in proximity).
Asking me details about myself (Where I've been, what I've been doing, what classes I am taking)
Telling me details about her life (Where she's been, what she was doing, her family details)
Asking me for advice.
Constantly being giggly, joking around, etc.
Singling me out in a group setting to talk to.
Again staring from across the room, and/or lock eye contact.
At points sneaking in pictures with me standing right next to me.

Yet she's never mentioned the raincheck, or asked me to go out again?

How do I best deal with this scenario. Do I continue to act indifferent and let her come to me?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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AttackFormation

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Do I continue to act indifferent and let her come to me?

Yes
 

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Ask her out. If she says yes and actually goes*, you have interest. If not, she's an attention wh0re.

* Even then she could be leading you on.

The only IOI you need to know is when a woman says yes and uses actions to back it up.

Case closed.
 

bdbee

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nismo-4 said:
Ask her out. If she says yes and actually goes*, you have interest. If not, she's an attention wh0re.

* Even then she could be leading you on.

The only IOI you need to know is when a woman says yes and uses actions to back it up.

Case closed.
And does this come off as needy months down the line? Doesn't social onus, and more importantly a lot of the DJ advice say, to treat your attention like currency?

What am I getting for my currency so far? Is this the right investment then till I get returns from my previous investment?
 

VladPatton

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You already invested too much, man. A 2 month rain check? Is she serious? Is she smokin ass hair? What is she a specialized doctor that has the sole cure for hard ons and you need to book her months in advance? Come on! You should of laughed in her face and said "Haha, yeah, ok, I'll catch up with you whenever-never" and ended your pursuit right there. This girl is disrespectful, has little to non interest, and is an attention whóre that loo-ooves your validations.

Chalk it up as a try and a miss, and move on to a better prospect.

Good luck.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Montague_Leach

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Ah, it appears this lass only needs you to look important around your mates my friend. Her gentleman friend that she blew you off for was plugging her hole with his pipe for the last two months if you know what I mean. You feel that you should have the honor of reaming her a good one too eh? My friend, this lass treated you with the utmost disrespect by turning you away for two months. Don't feed her the attention she craves by giving her what she wants. Instead of having pipe dreams of giving her your pipe, give her a boot to the arse for shining you on.
 
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