Is she blowing me off?

[viking22]

Had a first date with a girl last Thursday. I thought it went quite well, and she was flirting back and by the end of the evening she was becoming pretty touchy feely.

So I call her Saturday afternoon and suggest meeting up on Sunday. She agrees and says if the weather is nice we should go on a walk. Sunday comes and she cancels by text saying she cannot make it after all. No excuse.

I give her the benefit of the doubt and text her midweek asking when she was free this week. She texted back saying she was probably available on Sunday and would text me to let me know.

I see her on instant messenger the following night. I sign in and wait for her to say hello and when she does not I say hi. She says hi back but seems a bit distant and it feels like i am making all the conversation, and when i let the conversation die, she makes no effort to start it up.

I do not really like being in the position of waiting to hear from her. But i do not want to waste my time trying to arrange a date only for her to cancel again.

Should i next this girl, or wait to see if she does get in touch about the weekend, and if she doesn't next her?

 

[PectoralisMajor]

definate next. she has other guys on the go from what I'm reading above, and your not at the top of her list.....onwards and upwards. stop wasting time with this chick, your not going to get anything.

 

[MacAvoy]

I see her on instant messenger the following night. I sign in and wait for her to say hello and when she does not I say hi. She says hi back but seems a bit distant and it feels like i am making all the conversation, and when i let the conversation die, she makes no effort to start it up.

Honestly what do you hope to accomplish by doing this? Can you explain to me how you think its going to increase her IL in you?

 

[MotownMack]

yeah, she's not interested bro. You've made all the appropriate observations-and now you need to make appropriate conclusion-she has no plans to see you and barely feels like talking to you, but doesnt have the guts to tell you. move on.

 

[ezily]

Well she flaked on you once already. I would bet money that she doesn't call you. Girls never seem to do that (unless they're ugs and have no other options). So if this girl is attractive then she won't call. I think her telling you she'll contact you is her way of shooting you down. Most girls don't want to make a scene so when they don't like a guy they'll just disappear for the most part. Just next her and don't contact her again.

 

[Snow Plowman]

1. IM sucks
2. Just cause she flaked once doesn't mean it's over

I always tell my wings, you don't know whats going on in a chicks life, and plus you gotta do solid game from the start to get her to meet off the phone. Have the abundance mentality, if she flakes or doesn't pick up just keep her in the rotation for the days when your going through all your #s.

A chick I tried speaking too for 2-3 weeks of no responses, randomly called me 2 days ago saying she was sick the whole time which is why she never responded. I even seen her walking on the street that same day and we chatted for a bit until she had to go back to class.

Same goes for a chick who I had a day2 with and since I didn't pull the first day I just gave up and almost purposely was trying to get her not to talk to me ever again, but she still talked to me, and now she's a female friend.

 

[DonGorgon]

After a good date (with at least a kiss close) , you call and say you had a great time then the ball is in her call to show interest .. if she does not then its done... If you try to push her then its even more done..

 

[WesCottII]

Yes.

But not in a good way

 

[DonGorgon]

Yes.

But not in a good way

mean and funny...